Sensual Pleasures
Sensual Pleasures | Enjoyment without Joy | Chapter 9: Living Devotional Sex
Managing her Knight's arousal
Though
a Knight is allowed to feel some arousal during a sensual pleasure, his
Princess can manage both his behavior and his arousal.
When she wishes to ignore her Knight's arousal, he will usually behave appropriately. But if he does not, she may need to be assertive.
When she wishes to ignore her Knight's arousal, he will usually behave appropriately. But if he does not, she may need to be assertive.
If a Princess wishes to ignore any Knightly arousal, and her Knight starts to misbehave, she may need to be assertive and to tell him to behave. Usually this will be all that is required.
If a Princess does not like what her Knight is saying, she can let him know that he should change subject, or she can use the `be quiet´ command.
Usually her control of what her Knight says is limited to talk about sex, but as the point of her receiving a sensual pleasure is to be able to relax, it is appropriate that any other subjects that detract from the pleasure of the moment can also be left for discussion at another time.
If her Knight's hands start to wander in a more sexual way than the Princess wishes, she should simply instruct her Knight to desist.
If she ignores any Knightly arousal, and he behaves, then things are fine.
Sometimes a Princess will choose to deliberately increase her Knight's arousal.
There are many reasons why she might want to do this.
Reasons for a Princess wanting to increase her Knight's arousal include:
- just for the fun of teasing him,
- to build his erotic energy for activities which may follow,
- to enjoy having an aroused man under her power when she knows that nothing will follow,
- if her Knight is naked - to enjoy seeing the visual indication of the rise and fall of his arousal,
- to enjoy the feeling of power when she ends all activities, or
- as a reward for her Knight (as any increase in arousal makes giving a pleasure more fun for him)
Increasing the
Knight's arousal enhances the fun for the Knight while also making him
feel very much a Knight.
Getting the Knight more aroused is a great way of keeping him focused on pleasing his Princess, keeping his attention on what he is doing, and making him appreciate what is happening.
And getting him aroused in a way which reinforces the Devotional dynamic makes it feel more natural for him to obey his Princess - so making him more aroused can actually make it easier to go no further.
Note that a Princess may enjoy deliberately increasing her Knight's arousal even if she does not feel aroused herself. Alternatively the teasing of her Knight may be sexually arousing for a Princess.
One simple way of increasing his arousal is just to talk about it. The right words can have a big effect on a man.
When a Knight is giving a body massage he is stimulated by the sight of his Princess's body. As a Knight cannot touch `bathing suit´ parts without permission, a Princess can flaunt her nudity to tease him. Similarly, when bathing together, as a Knight can look (unless he is allowed to touch), a Princess can flaunt the effect her nudity has on her Knight.
When giving a foot massage a Knight can also be teased by being allowed to look up his Princess's legs.
Another way to increase a Knight's arousal is to include some erotic fun with the sensual pleasure. For example, having the Knight be in naked while giving a foot or body massage makes it clear that he is under his Princess's power.
For example, a Princess can say "Reveal and give me a foot massage please". Even if she sits back with her eyes closed her Knight will feel more under her power. And as this may be mainly just a sensual pleasure for the Princess, once the foot massage is over she might say "Thank-you. You can get dressed now."
