9: Living Devotional Sex
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When Devotional Sex becomes your normal
Though
the most fun and excitement is probably when you first start exploring
Devotional Sex, the real power of the technique, and its greatest
satisfaction, are felt when it becomes a normal part of your life.
Devotional Sex has then become a part of your whole lifestyle, and it fits in with the rest of your lifestyle.
Some of the reality of living Devotional Sex might not be what you at first suspect!
Devotional Sex has then become a part of your whole lifestyle, and it fits in with the rest of your lifestyle.
Some of the reality of living Devotional Sex might not be what you at first suspect!
The basic dynamic becomes normal
When learning Devotional Sex the basic dynamic feels like an adventure. It is challenging, and it requires effort from both the Princess and her Knight.
Once the basic dynamic has become a normal part of your life it is very easy for the Princess to live her role, and much easier for the Knight to accept and enjoy his. (More)
With `normal´ sex each couple has their own normal for the frequency of their sexual activity. When living Devotional Sex each couple will again find a normal that is right for them.
Your first impressions of Devotional Sex might be that the amount of sex would increase significantly. In practice you are more likely to find that the amount of medium and long sessions stays about the same.
The big difference is that you may also be enjoying some extra Blissettes, and the Knight may find that being aroused during just a cuddle makes his life feel much more sexual. So, especially for the Knight, it will feel that there is more sex than before.
Of course there will still be many mornings and bedtimes without any sexual activity. (More)
When living Devotional Sex both the Princess and her Knight will probably find that the feelings of intimacy and connectedness to their partner come mainly from the many cuddles and erotically charged quiet times rather than from the active sexual activities or from doing any of the enhancements.
Sessions when there is only one main sexual activity (eg just a Pleasure Kiss, or just a Desire Kiss) also become very special as the activity is much more appreciated and enjoyed when it is not just a prelude to a next step. (More)
How living Devotional Sex changes your sex life is illustrated by listing all the sexual activity enjoyed by one couple over a period of two months.
I could have picked a very sexy and adventurous two months for my example. This would be great fuel to fantasy. Instead I picked a period of time when things had become a bit too routine.
By picking a time when we did not enjoy challenges and adventures what is left is an illustration of the underlying dynamic of living Devotional Sex. (More)
All the extras and enhancements presented on this site are optional. As we all have different tastes, many of the extras will not appeal to you.
Just like a regular customer of a restaurant will never have tried many of the dishes, those living Devotional Sex will never have tried many of the extras and enhancements. And that is as it should be. (More)
Devotional Sex provides a safe and supportive environment to discuss fantasies, and to try new things. Once you are used to Devotional Sex you may find yourself trying something different that you never imagined you would try before you started Devotional Sex.
Some of the things you try you will decide never to do again, some may become occasional spices, and you might find something that works so well within your Devotional life that it becomes a part of your new normal. (More)
Because a Knight living Devotional Sex is always slightly horny, and what and when things happen is set by the Princess, there will be many couples where the Knight would like to enjoy some activities and enhancements more often than his Princess allows.
Living Devotional Sex means a Knight must accept that all his complete fantasy will not happen. Fortunately living Devotional Sex will probably be a very fulfilling mid-way point, and so Devotional Sex does make at least some of his fantasy real.
Living Devotional Sex is also much more normal than you might at first expect. For example, in couples where the Knight very much enjoys erotic submission, and his Princess enjoys his submission, most of their Devotional activity will not have the Knight feeling submissive. (More)
Very often a Princess who likes something she reads on this site will be able to make this a part of her life.
This may require some time and effort, and she will have to ensure that her Knight is always wanting to be her Knight (which may mean making more of his fantasy real in return). For a Princess who is prepared to do the work, the rewards can be very significant. (More)
A common misconception is that those couples who do more activities, and do them more often, are somehow better at Devotional Sex than couples who do less.
If adding some activities, and spending a bit more time on Devotional Sex will make you both happier, then this is a good thing. But once you have reached your personal peak of happiness as a couple, adding more activities or spending more time is going past your peak and moving downhill.
True success at Devotional Sex is when a couple have reached and are living their own peak of happiness. (More)
