The overall feel of a Devotional Relationship is affected by the frequency of Blissettes. There is no `right amount´ of Blissettes per week, only what is right for each Devotee couple at any given time.

Couples who practice a Cuddle ritual have the opportunity to turn every cuddle into a Blissette. Some Princesses will want most cuddles to remain just cuddles, and their relationship will feel less sexual but more intimate than couples who enjoy lots of Blissettes.

It is not uncommon for a Princess's interest in sex to vary over time. As it is the Princess who decides when to enjoy a Blissette, many couples will have times when they enjoy lots of Blissettes, and other times when a Blissette is a rare treat.
 
 

The overall feel of a Devotional Relationship is also affected by which sexual activity a Princess chooses to enjoy for most of the couple’s Blissettes.

The main Blissette activities, and their effect on the overall feel of the relationship, are set out below.

Pleasure Kiss: A Princess needs only to say "Ritual" and part her legs, and her Knight will orally pleasure her.

As well as simply enjoying the pleasure of this Blissette, a Princess might sometimes decide to initiate it as an exercise in Princess Power, or to let her Knight enjoy a Blissette when his erotic energy is high. If this Blissette is enjoyed before going to sleep it can be good to end it with a Calm-Down Cuddle.

A Princess must ensure that her Knight always wants to be her Knight. But this does not mean that the giving and receiving of oral sex needs to be balanced. As her Knight's high erotic energy increases his enjoyment in giving oral sex, a Princess can easily decide that Pleasure Kiss Blissettes will happen much more often than Desire Kiss Blissettes.

If most of a couple's Blissettes are Pleasure Kisses it will create a dynamic in which the Knight is very devoted to his Princess.

Pleasure Play: A Princess can use the "Stroke" command to have her Knight pleasure her with his hand.

This Blissette is great for Princesses who particularly enjoy their Knight using his hand. Of course, those who prefer the greater intimacy of the Knight using his mouth will say "Ritual" instead.

This is unlikely to be a couple's most common type of Blissette.

Desire Play: Within a Desire Play Blissette, the Princess actively plays with the Knight's erection to bring him to a high level of arousal. A Princess can use the "Back" command to have her Knight lie on his back so that she can play with him.

Once a Princess becomes used to having an aroused Knight in bed with her it can feel as if something is missing if he is not aroused. If her Knight is not aroused and the Princess would like him to be, a quick Desire Play Blissette can be used to restore his erotic energy.

If this was the most common Blissette it would show that the Princess enjoyed keeping her Knight at a high level of arousal. It would also create a rather playful dynamic.

Self Desire Play: A Princess can tell her Knight to play with himself. She can tell him to bring himself to a Crest, or tell him that he is not allowed to Crest. If the Knight does Crest, this will slightly calm his erotic energy.

This Blissette is useful when the Knight has lots of erotic energy and a Princess wants her Knight to enjoy having this energy without having to get involved. She can share in his energy if she cuddles him or simply watches him.

A Princess can easily enjoy this Blissette during the day or evening by just telling her Knight to "Display".

If a Princess is in a phase where she is not feeling very sexual, this Blissette could be the most commonly practiced as it allows the Knight to enjoy his erotic energy while with his partner but without her having to do anything. Though the couple are not sharing sexual activity this Blissette enables them to share intimacy.

Desire Kiss: A Knight's high erotic energy means that receiving even a short Desire Kiss is very pleasurable. And as this kiss will not lead to a Climax (though an active Blissette might make him Crest), giving the kiss can be just a slow and sensual tease.

A Desire Kiss Blissette is a great treat for a Knight, and will leave him with higher erotic energy and very fond thoughts about his Princess.

If the start of this Blissette has taken her Knight by surprise, a Princess can enjoy using her mouth to make her Knight hard.

This can be a fun Blissette for a Princess to do to surprise her Knight just before the couple go out, or any time during the day. Having got him hard and given him a minute or two's pleasure, the Princess demonstrates her Princess Power when she ends the Blissette leaving her Knight erect and very much looking forward to the next session.

As with Desire Play, a Princess can use the "Back" command to have her Knight move into the right position to start this Blissette.

This is unlikely to be the most common Blissette practiced by a couple, but if it is, the Knight will be particularly aware that the Princess enjoys giving him pleasure.

Joy: A Blissette consisting of just a few minutes of Joy is a great appetizer for the next session. A Blissette consisting of Joy can be anything from just a slow and gentle intimate connection to a few minutes of high-energy activity.

One of the benefits of the Knight being aroused even during a cuddle is that a Princess can turn any of these cuddles into a Blissette that features Joy. In particular, the Joy Cuddle position enables a natural transition from just cuddling to Joy.

If most of a couple’s Blissettes consist of Joy, they will experience a dynamic that is focused on the sexual pleasure they enjoy simultaneously.

Devotional Cuddle: A Devotional Cuddle sits halfway between full sexual activity (eg Desire Play) and just a cuddle. As such, a Devotional Cuddle is Erotic Resting and not a Blissette.

However, many Blissettes will start or end with a short Devotional Cuddle, and the frequency with which the couple engage only in a Devotional Cuddle also helps set the overall feel of the Devotional Relationship.

Just as it is easier for a Princess to initiate Blissettes if she feels the Devotional Dynamic is strong, it is also easier for her to enjoy `just a Devotional Cuddle´ in this situation. (In both cases, this is because the Princess feels that it is her choice to start the activity, and is confident that she can end it when she wishes.)

Lots of Devotional Cuddles without other activities create a dynamic in which the Princess is very accepting of her Knight's high erotic energy and his desire for her.

Blissettes featuring a sexual activity are, of course, much more sexually satisfying. But the greatest intimacy and deepest connection will take place between those couples who enjoy lots of Devotional Cuddles between their longer sessions.
 
 

A Princess can decide that a particular type of Blissette will be enjoyed at a regular time, making this one of the couple's Devotional Sex habits, ie one of their rituals. For example, she might decide that every Sunday morning will include a Desire Kiss Blissette.

The power of enjoying a regular Blissette is described further in Chapter 11: Rituals and Ceremonies, here.
 
 

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