Devotional Sex is made up of three components, the first two very ancient, the third more modern.
 
 
The first thing that makes Devotional Sex different is that the male practices an ancient Eastern technique whereby he does not ejaculate at the end of most sexual activity.

If you become intimate with him, he will not ejaculate that night (or the next morning), no matter how far you go.

Being intimate with him will feel special because he will never be focused on `getting off´ at the end, but only on enjoying the journey of sharing pleasure. He will enjoy giving you pleasure for its own sake, not just to move on to the next stage, or so that you will give him pleasure in return.
 
 
His not ejaculating does not mean missing out on orgasms. An experienced male practitioner of Devotional Sex can orgasm without ejaculating! And as his sexual energy only disappears after ejaculation, he will still be hard and aroused after having a non-ejaculatory orgasm. This means he can orgasm again (and again). This is why the technique has been called The Multi-Orgasmic Man.

The first time you bring him to orgasm without him ejaculating is a special moment.

Most of the time your partner will not feel too close to ejaculating. But if he does feel too close, it is best for both of you to ease up or stop for a minute or two.
 
 
The second thing that makes Devotional Sex different is that the male not ejaculating leads to sexual activity becoming slower and more sensual. It then becomes easy for sexual activity to go on for much longer than usual.

This is very much in the direction of Tantric sex, except that no strange positions are involved.

Note that by sexual activity I do not mean just intercourse. Within Devotional Sex (and Tantra) everything that you do when you are wet and he is hard is an enjoyable sexual activity.

The main lesson from Tantra used in Devotional Sex is to go slow and fully enjoy the moment. As your date will not be getting the pleasure of ejaculation at the end, he must derive all his pleasure from the journey of shared pleasure. You can also gain much pleasure from what happens during the journey.

This lesson from Tantra tells us that it is the journey where the greatest pleasures can be found.
 
 
While real Tantric sex is mainly just intercourse, Devotional Sex often includes lots of slow and sensual oral sex and touching.

Oral sex can feel very different when doing Devotional Sex. His not ejaculating means that if you give him oral he will enjoy this only for the pleasure you give him - not as a means to `get off´.

With Devotional Sex your partner's high erotic energy is often focused on giving you pleasure. One benefit of this is that he will enjoy giving you oral sex as much as you enjoy receiving it! With Devotional Sex you will please him by allowing him to pleasure you.

The Devotional Sex logo (at the top of each page) represents the mutual pleasure of a man orally pleasuring a women. If you like receiving oral sex you are in for a treat with Devotional Sex.
 
 

The third thing that makes Devotional Sex different is that your date will do everything you say in the areas of sensuality and sex.

As well as your being able to make things happen, this means that you can fully relax knowing that things will not happen unless you want them to.
 
 
It is common to avoid early mild intimacy because this can be taken as an invitation to continue towards full sexual activity.

"Can I give you a foot massage?" often means "Can I have sex with you in half an hour?" With Devotional Sex a foot massage (or back rub, or cuddle) need not lead on to anything else.

And if an activity does lead on to something else, you choose what and when.

The expectation that one thing will lead to another also has the problem that both people are often not thinking about the activity they are doing, but are instead distracted by thinking about what will or might happen next. You never fully enjoy a particular moment because your attention is elsewhere.

Devotional Sex enables each activity to have its own significance, and to be enjoyed by both for what it is. This is one of the main benefits of Devotional Sex!
 
 
Although you have the power to make your partner do as you wish, he is not asking you to take control of everything that happens (though you can if you want!).

He might lead the activities by making suggestions, and your direction might consist of nothing more than saying "that would be nice". When you decide you do not want to go any further you need only say "not tonight".
 
 
Female erotic power within Devotional Sex is mainly about removing male dominance.

Because you will both be enjoying what happens, and because it is so reasonable that you only go as far as you really want, you may find yourself feeling that your power is more about equality than control.

So your date is not expecting you to be dominant - just to accept that your occasional control of the activities will make things much more enjoyable for both of you.

Your date wants to be intimate with you, so he will enjoy whatever you do together.

If you use your erotic power over your date to maximize your own fun and pleasure, and to enjoy feeling intimacy and connectedness with him, you will both reap the rewards.
 
 
With Devotional Sex sexual activity ends when you decide to stop. As your partner has not ejaculated he will still have sexual energy. So he will very much want to cuddle you for a while as his erotic energy slowly declines.

With Devotional Sex it is the man who most wants a cuddle at the end!
 
First intimacy is much more fun and exciting if it moves slowly.

The natural male drive is to want to move quickly towards intercourse and ejaculation, and all on the first night together!

The female preference is often to move slowly and develop intimacy, and many women would love to be able to go some of the way without having to go all the way.

A man who practices Devotional Sex appreciates the female way, and needs your help to make it happen.

So the main control he is asking you to take is to only allow to happen the things that you wish to happen, and to enjoy the experience of moving slowly.

Using your power to enjoy some erotic activities before things become explicitly sexual is where much of the fun of Devotional Sex can occur.

The increased intimacy and connection comes from using your power to take your time enjoying each activity before moving on to something else, or to enjoy some activities knowing that it will not lead to anything further.

For example, you might decide that the first time you go to bed with your date he must keep his underpants on the whole time. If you also keep your underpants on things will remain fairly chaste with only lots of kissing and cuddling and desiring of each other.

If you wanted to go a bit further, one option would be for only you to take your underpants off and to have your date give you oral sex.

Devotional Sex enables you to use your date's strong desire to have him pleasure you. Your pleasuring of him can wait until another time. Apart from perhaps giving his erection a little touch over his underpants at the end of the night, it is very powerful for both of you if your first sexual activity is about your wetness and not about his erection.

Even if you decide that your first explicit sexual activity will not be just you receiving oral sex, knowing that this is possibility within Devotional Sex is a good illustration of just how different Devotional Sex can be.
 
 

There are some restrictions on what you can tell him to do:

1. Your power only applies to sensual and sexual activities.
   
   
2. What you tell him to do must be within his limits, that is, something he is willing to do.
   
   For example, if you tell him to take his clothes off when you are alone at home, then he must do it. If, to take an outlandish example, you tell him to walk down the street naked, he will probably say that this is not within his limits, which means he does not have to do it. 
   
   If you want to know whether or not he will do something, just ask him.
   
   
3. It must be done for your mutual sexual and sensual pleasure, and not to humiliate him.
   
   For example, if you tell him to take his shirt off and he feels that you are making fun of him, then Devotional Sex will not work and that is the end of things. However, if he is naked and you ask him to masturbate himself so that you can watch, and he feels that you are doing this to enjoy your power, to enjoy watching him, and for mutual fun, then he will do it.
   
   Not humiliating him has little to do with what you tell him to do, but is all about his perception of why you are telling him to do it.

Devotional Sex is designed to enhance intimacy and sex for couples who care for each other. Your date is comfortable that you will not abuse your erotic power over him because he trusts that you will care enough about him to ensure that you both enjoy your time together.
 
  

Your date does not think of Devotional Sex as imposing rules on `normal´ behavior.

Rather, he recognizes that `normal´ behavior has many unwritten rules and expectations, and that following these is not the best way to enjoy getting to know a new person.

He thinks actually greater freedom to explore and enjoy your first intimacy when the unwritten rules and expectations are replaced by Devotional Sex.

If you read on you will find that there are many more ways to enjoy erotic fun within Devotional Sex than there are when dating the `normal´ way. Devotional Sex opens up many more doors than it closes.
 
 
Using Devotional Sex gives each person a different role from usual, but there is still great flexibility as to how things are done.

Each relationship is different, and the Devotional dynamic is adaptable to different people and their needs and expectations.

In your setting of what happens you will be responding to your date. If you were with a different person, you would very likely do things differently. And if your date has enjoyed using Devotional Sex with a previous partner, he will find that with you the pace, activities, and the feel of the whole dynamic will be very different.

You are doing Devotional Sex right when, taking into account the feelings of your date, what you are doing feels right for you.

What feels right at any time with a new date will be different for each of us, so each new couple will have their own unique experience of Devotional Sex.
 
 
Now that you know what Devotional Sex is you can read on to see how it can be used to enhance your dating.

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