8: Getting Started: Devotional Friends
 

This section only discusses full sexual pleasures, that is significant Pleasure Play, Desire Play, Pleasure Kisses, and Desire Kisses. Everything which increases erotic energy before full sexual activity is covered under erotic fun and play ideas.

Sharing real sexual pleasures within a Devotional Friendship, for those who choose to go this far, is the only part of the Devotional Friendship which provides traditional sexual satisfaction.

Devotional Friendships who share sexual pleasures have agreed to never go as far as Joy. (Devotional Friends who include Joy are called Devotional Lovers.)

A Devotional Friendship can include a balanced mix of sexual activities (ie about the same amount of Pleasure Play as there is Desire Play, and about the same amount of Pleasure Kissing as there is Desire Kissing).

One of the interesting and fun options within a Devotional Friendship is that the sexual activities can be permanently unbalanced. Unbalanced sexual activities will make the Devotional Friendship feel very different from any other type of relationship, and is a reminder that this is not a romantic relationship.

A Devotional Friendship will feel very different and special if you decide that within the Devotional Friendship one or two sexual activities will happen a lot, and some sexual activities will never (or only rarely) happen.  Significant unbalance is unlikely to be possible within a romantic relationship, as within a romantic relationship it is reasonable for the Knight to expect activities to be fairly balanced. So a Devotional Friendship provides a unique opportunity to experience a very fun dynamic.

It will usually be the Princess who decides that the sexual activities will be unbalanced, and decides which activities will be enjoyed. Of course she should choose the option that will make her feel most comfortable and which she finds the most sexually exciting.

There are two types of unbalance. The first is when each session is unbalanced, but other sessions go the other way. For example, one time together, 80% of the sexual activity could be a long Pleasure Kiss. The next time they are together 70% of the sexual activity could be a long Desire Kiss.

The most significant type of unbalance is when the activities are always unbalanced.

If she would enjoy playing with and pleasuring her Knight then she can decide that the Devotional Friendship will include lots of Desire Play (and maybe Desire Kisses) and yet never go as far as her taking off her panties.

If she would like to explore what it feels like to mainly receive pleasure, she can decide that the Devotional Friendship will include lots of Pleasure Kissing but no (or just a little) other sexual activities.

One reason that a Knight is likely to accept unbalanced activities is that the alternative is doing nothing. But as Devotional Sex encourages Devotees to learn to enjoy giving pleasure just as much as receiving it, an unbalanced Devotional Friendship is likely to be enjoyed by the pleasure giver because they truly enjoy the giving.

For a real-life story where an evening of Devotional Sex focused on the Knight giving his Princess pleasure, click here.

A couple that chooses to enjoy a balance of sexual activities will feel similar to traditional lovers. As this is similar to what happens in a romantic relationship, there is not much new to say about balanced activities.

As the possibilities from enjoying unbalanced sexual activities are very different from a usual relationship, the sections below focus on why it might be fun to enjoy some unbalanced activities when you are Devotional Friends.
 

Climaxes and Crests

If the Princess wishes, a Devotional Friendship provides an opportunity for her to enjoy as many Climaxes or Crests as she wishes.

If the activities include the right stimulation, the Knight can enjoy as many Crests as his Princess is prepared to give him.

Part of his agreeing to be a Devotional Friend is that he has agreed to never Climax while enjoying  Devotional Friendship activities.

A Devotional Friendship is a different type of relationship from a romantic relationship. One way of keeping it feeling different is for the Knight to never Climax within the Devotional Friendship. This is a rather powerful indication that things are different. It may be the Knight who decides that he should never Climax, in which case the Princess should, of course, respect his wish. It may be the Princess who decides that he will never Climax. In this case the Knight must accept this decision if he still wants to be her Knight.

The Knight never climaxing within a Devotional Friendship is a good way of keeping the Knight focused on enjoying what is happening and not getting distracted by wanting relief at the end. For example, if a Princess would like the main sexual pleasure of the Devotional Friendship to be him giving her Pleasure Kisses, and the Knight knows that he is sometimes allowed to Climax, then when giving her a Pleasure Kiss he is more likely to be wanting to move to some Desire Play, a Desire Kiss, or some Joy so he might be able to Climax. If he knows that he will not Climax, then he is no longer distracted by how this might happen, and it becomes easier for him to just enjoy giving the Pleasure Kiss.

Removing the possibility of a Climax also means that whenever the Princess gives him some Desire Play, a Desire Kiss, or they share some Joy, they both know that this is done only for the pleasure of the activity, and never as a way for him to Climax.  He will learn to enjoy the activity more, and she may feel more powerful and in control as it is clear that she is choosing to give him pleasure rather than her having to give him relief.

Of course you can both choose to make a Knight's Climax part of your dynamic. But because of all the benefits presented above, I recommend that either the Princess or the Knight decide (and the other agree) that the Knight will never Climax within your Devotional Friendship.
 

Pleasure Play

A Princess might decide that Pleasure Play will be the main way she enjoys sexual pleasure within the Devotional Friendship.

A powerful alternative is for the Princess to decide that her Knight will never touch her Pleasure with his hands.
But am not suggesting that she misses out.

A Knight who has not Climaxed for many days has a much higher sexual energy than otherwise. The high energy will often make him very eager to give his Princess a Pleasure Kiss. So a Princess can decide that if he is always eager to use his mouth, why ever let him use his hands. A Princess can at any time `ask´ for a Pleasure Kiss (she only needs to say "Ritual"), and this will go on until she `asks´ for it to stop.

Having the Knight always use his mouth rather than his hands to give pleasure is nicely symbolic of the devotional nature of Devotional Sex.
 

Desire Play

Significant Desire Play is when any touching of his Desire moves from mainly being a tease to mainly giving pleasure.

An experienced Knight will be able to Crest when he is being played with. This is of course great for him, and it is also fun for the Princess to bring him to this state.

Because the play is not about bringing the Knight to Climax, it is enjoyed just for the sensual pleasure of the touching. Though it can be done for just a short time, it becomes very enjoyable if it is done for a long time. Of course the pace and energy of the Desire Play will vary throughout any long playing.

If the Princess has chosen to enjoy an unbalanced Devotional Friendship, and Desire Play is the only sexual activity, then even though she is giving him pleasure she is likely to feel powerful and in control. Her Knight has become her sexual toy to have fun with. She decides when she will start to play with him, and she decides when she will stop. The Knight being her plaything would be enhanced if they also spent time with the Knight naked and the Princess fully dressed.

One way to have the Princess feel in control and the Knight to feel vulnerable is for the Princess to sit in the middle of a couch, and to have her naked Knight lie face up on her lap (ie with his head at one end of the couch and his feet at the other end). She can then play with his Desire as she wishes. This is also a good position to have him talk openly about past sexual experiences and fantasies. For a Princess who does not want to go as far, this position can also be used for Desire Play over underpants.

One way of doing more activities yet keeping the relationship feeling special because of unbalance is to enjoy some Desire Play in the living room, and then when you go the bedroom the Knight puts his underpants back on and the focus moves to giving the Princess pleasure - perhaps a long Pleasure Kiss - and there is no Desire Play in the bedroom.
 

Pleasure Kiss

A Pleasure Kiss is probably the activity which is most changed by Devotional Sex.

The first big change is that a Princess can enjoy a Pleasure Kiss whenever she `asks´ for one, and it does not end till she `asks´ for it to stop. In bed she only needs to say "Ritual" and her Knight will please her.

The other big change is that because the Knight has such high erotic energy from not Climaxing very often, he enjoys giving a Pleasure Kiss much more, and may sometimes even want to give her more Pleasure Kisses than he is allowed!

So one way that a romantic Devotional relationship differs from a `normal´ sexual relationship is that there tends to be a lot more Pleasure Kissing.

The logo for this site represents a Pleasure Kiss because this best shows the Knight's devotion and desire for his Princess, and the Princess's pleasure from enjoying her Knight.

A Devotional Friendship gives any Princess who is willing an opportunity to enjoy lots of long Pleasure Kisses.

What can be done within a Devotional Friendship, but which cannot happen within a romantic relationship, is the Princess can choose to make receiving Pleasure Kisses the main or only sexual activity.

Although other sexual activities might be enjoyed as well, Pleasure Kissing might still be the main activity because it is what the couple spend the most of their sexually active time doing. Alternatively the couple might never do some other activities at all.

The Princess can choose to never give him any Desire Kisses. Alternatively she might decide that if he has spent an hour kissing her, a minute or two of Desire Kissing is a nice reward, and that the huge imbalance in timing maintains that the bed time is mainly about her pleasure.

If Pleasure Kissing is the main or only sexual activity then both Devotees need to become used to this special dynamic. She needs to learn to feel comfortable that this relationship is about her being pleasured and that it really is OK not to do much to him in return. He needs to learn to be comfortable just pleasing her, and to fully enjoy giving her the Pleasure Kisses.

A real-life story where the main activity was a very long Pleasure Kiss is here.

If the couple do not go as far as Joy, the Pleasure Kissing will feel much more like the main event.

When in bed and resting from the Pleasure Kissing, the Knight will need some attention. This might be just a cuddle. But even if the Princess wants to keep the activities very focused on her pleasure then she should at least consider giving her Knight some Desire touching over his underpants. If the Knight is naked then it works well for the Princess to spend rest time holding his Desire with some lazy playing.

At the end of the Pleasure Kissing the Knight will have very high erotic energy, and it is important that this is acknowledged and accepted by his Princess. The best way is to enjoy a Devotional Cuddle. A relationship where the only Desire Play is over his underpants would have a very powerful ending if the only time she touches his naked Desire is during the Devotional Cuddle at the very end of each session. If the Princess does not want to go this far, then holding his desire fairly tightly over his underpants would be a good alternative.

If the couple spend the night together, be sure to enjoy a final Pleasure Kiss in the morning!

There is a huge amount of possible mixes of activities within a Devotional Friendship. Out of all these possibilities the one which is probably the most `devotional´ is when the main or only sexual activity is Pleasure Kissing. To enjoy such a relationship requires a Devotional Friend (as any romantic relationship would go further and be more balanced). If a Princess finds a willing Devotional Friend then it would be lots of fun, and very empowering, to explore this unique dynamic.
 

Desire Kiss

Most of what is said about Desire Play also applies to Desire Kissing.

Again an experienced Knight will be able to enjoy Cresting while being kissed, and as he will not Climax at the end the kiss is all about enjoying the sensual pleasure of the kissing. Though it can be done for just a short time, it becomes very enjoyable if it is done for a long time. Of course the pace and energy of the Desire Kiss will vary throughout any long kissing.

The Princess can feel powerful and in control when giving a Desire Kiss because she decides when to start, and she decides when to stop. If the main sexual activities are just Desire Play and Desire Kisses, the Princess will again feel that her Knight is her sexual toy to have fun teasing and pleasuring.
 

Toys

Toys can be fun to add to the sexual adventures.

A Princess can have her Knight pleasure her with a vibrator. She can use her Princess Power to instruct him to use it just as she likes.

A Princess who would like to enjoy penetration, but who does not want to become Devotional Lovers with her friend, can have her Knight use a Dildos to pleasure her.

A Princess can also tease her Knight by using a vibrator or Dildo on herself, and allowing her partner to watch. She can have him sit back and watch, or instruct him lie with his head between her legs so that he can watch up close.

One interesting toy is a dildo which is attached to the males chin with a rubber strap around his head. Using this toy is fun as the male gets a very close view of it going into her Pleasure, and when it is all the way in he can use his tongue to stimulate her clit. This toy might be available at your local sex shop. A quick google found similar toys available here and here (I have no connection with either of these stores).
 

Joy

Some Devotional Friends will want to go as far as Joy.

As with all Devotional Sex, because the Knight rarely (or maybe never in a Devotional Friendship) Climaxes, the Joy will usually be slower and more sensual than `normal´ sex, and will often last for much longer.

If the Knight does not Climax at the end, it is good to finish the activities with a Devotional Cuddle.

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