8: Getting Started: Devotional Friends
More extreme (and maybe more fun) erotic play ideas
These
ideas will not appeal to most people. The adventurous few who are
excited by one or more of these ideas may find them even more fun due
to the feeling of playing at the edge.
As with all activities done by Devotional Friends, the activity must be something that the Knight is willing to do within that Devotional Friendship, and the activity will only happen if chosen by the Princess.
If you are excited by anything on this page I hope you are brave enough to give them a go. Have fun!
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This rule would certainly add a unique component to the Devotional Friendship! It would provide the Princess a fun reminder of her power, and her Knight would never forget that he has committed to obey her.
While starting to do this would initially feel strange (and exciting) to both, it would become rather special once both people started to feel that this was their new `normal´ way of being together. The nudity would have one feeling when there was some erotic play, but would feel very different when the friends were just doing non-sexual things together (dinner, watching a DVD, etc).
The Knight always naked rule can be used by Devotional Friends who do not engage in (other) erotic or sensual activities, or only do this sometimes. In these cases it would highlight that the Knight was wanting of his Princess and willing to obey her, and that the Princess had graciously accepted his Devotion but chosen not to move onto other activities.
This rule could be used by Devotees living together in a romantic relationship. But as they are so often together, and are together all hours of the day, the rule might be too impractical. Instead a Knight nude rule would best be applied only at certain times of the day.
As Devotional Friends are only occasionally together, it would be much easier to apply this rule all the time they are together (and alone in a suitable place). So this is a game which is easier and more practical for Devotional Friends to play than Devotees in a relationship.
My expectation is that the Knight always naked rule would work well in a Devotional Friendship where there is little or no sexual activity (but the Knight would like it if it happened), and in a sexual Devotional Friendship where the sexual activity was focused on pleasuring the Princess (ie the main activities are long Pleasure Kisses (and some Desire Play to give the Knight some pleasure), and perhaps no Desire Kisses.
I think that the Knight always naked rule would be a very interesting experiment to try in reality. For it to become normal for me to always be naked with a Devotional Friend would feel very special. For me it would tune in to some of the spiritual aspects of Devotional Sex as it would be symbolic of my commitment to Devotional Sex, and my celebration of the female forces of the universe. (See Chapter 7 for more on the spiritual aspects of Devotional Sex.)
Everything done within Devotional Sex is consensual. The big difference between normal and Devotional Sex is that the Knight gives his consent well before anything happens, and he is then committed to obeying his Princess if she chooses to play within what he has consented may happen. (Of course he can always stop play if he finds that reality is much more traumatic than fantasy.)
Even if a Princess thinks she is very unlikely to ever include other people in even mild Devotional Sex activities, it can be an erotic and exciting experience for both Devotional Friends to discuss what could happen, and for the Knight to have to define what is allowed, and what is not. Of course the Knight will then never know whether or not something might happen, which creates some fun erotic tension for him. And even if the Princess knows within herself that she will never have her Knight do something, she can enjoy the feeling that if she did tell him to do something, he would.
Anything with a third (or more) person needs their consent as well. As the Princess decides what happens, it is usually her who ensures this consent.
Play with other people can be so mild that the other person does not realize there is any Devotional Sex play at work. In a casual group of friends situation a Princess might just have her Knight sit at her feet.
She could have her Knight give her a foot massage while they all chat. The Princess could then have her Knight give a foot massage to a female friend.
No Devotional Sex is apparent if a Princess says, for example, to her friend Jill:
"Sam enjoys giving foot massages. I am sure that he would give you one if you wanted."
"Sam, would like to give Jill a foot massage?"
Sam hears a Princess's order. Jill hears some normal conversation.
The next level of activity with other people is when the other person is told about Devotional Sex. If the other person has no interest in this, then the conversation does not last long. But if they are interested, then it is a very interesting experience to talk about it.
The final level of activity with another person is when the Princess uses her power to make something happen which the other person knows is about Devotional Sex.
Devotional Friendship is very liberating because it enables a couple to enjoy and explore erotic energy and sensual and sexual pleasures without any need or expectation to go the whole way. The Knight's high erotic energy (which has a Knight always wanting a bit more and to go a bit further) is balanced by Princess Power, and the Princess feels fully in control and happy to do only what she chooses.
Activity with another person is also very liberating because Devotional Sex keeps everything under female control, and makes it very easy to explore and have fun with doing only a little, or perhaps going a bit further in the way that the Princess chooses.
A Princess might enjoy having her Knight with his hands tied behind his back, or enjoy tying him to the bed.
The Princess is in control over what happens, but this does not prevent her from enjoying any activity she chooses. So, for example, a Princess can choose to be tied to the bed so that she can then be teased and pleasured by her Knight.
For just a light spanking the dynamic is more about enjoying some theatrics than anything else.
For those who enjoy a heavier spanking, the play within a Devotional Friendship can provide a good opportunity.
The Princess is in control over what happens, but this does not prevent her from enjoying any activity she chooses. So a Princess can choose to receive a spanking as well as to give one.
Wearing a butt plug is an intense experience for a Knight. It can make everything else that is happening feel more intense, and can make the Knight feel vulnerable and controlled.
Usually a sex toy such as a butt plug is only be used during full sexual activity. As with many things, Devotional Sex enables some other possibilities.
The simplest, but very effective, is for the Princess to tell her Knight to leave the room and put the butt plug in, and then return fully dressed. He will not be the same man when he comes back! The couple might then enjoy just a cuddle, but it will feel very different for both of them. This is a very effective way of making a fully clothed cuddle a very intense and sexy experience.
Because even a moderately sized butt plug can feel rather intense, the Knight will need to feel fairly aroused when wearing it, and it may only be `comfortable´ to wear for between ten to sixty minutes (depending on the plug and the man).
Having the Knight wear a butt plug can also be used during any sexual activity to make the Knight feel more intense and vulnerable.
But as with so much of Devotional Sex, the more interesting situation is the non-obvious case of making the Knight wear some female clothing when he is not aroused by cross-dressing. This is a very different game which is all about power and submission and not really about cross-dressing.
For a male who is not into cross-dressing, wearing female panties is a very strange experience. If he is nude apart from the panties, then the look is very different, especially if the panties are lace or have some feminine decoration. Also they feel very different - they are tight around his balls and Desire. So even if he is wearing the panties under normal clothing, he will always feel different.
If a man from a very foreign culture had to put on some panties, he might think they looked a bit strange, and they would not feel very comfortable, but this would not matter very much. This example makes it clear that the big effect of a man from our culture having to wear female panties derives from the fact that it is taboo. This is the main source of his discomfort, and though the look and feel are not too bad in themselves, this constantly reminds him that he is doing something taboo.
Making a Knight (who does not enjoy cross-dressing) wear some panties is an act of Princess Power, and Knightly submission. A Knight who enjoys feeling under his Princess's power may both hate having to wear the panties but also love the feeling of being under her power. So if the Knight enjoys feeling under a Princess's power, making him wear panties can work very well.
If the Knight does not enjoy submission, having to wear female panties may be so traumatic that it would be outside his limits (ie he will not do it). If in doubt, a Princess can always discuss with her Knight what is, and what is not, within his limits.
If the Knight does not own any panties in his size (which will often be the case), his Princess telling him he must go shopping and buy some which look feminine and are in his size will be both challenging and make him feel even more under his Princess's power.
If a Princess would enjoy her Knight feeling under her power when they go out together for dinner, telling him that he must wear panties is very effective.
And if a Princess, when they are alone together, likes the idea of her Knight not being fully dressed, but does not want him naked, then having him just wear panties is an effective way of making him feel very much under her control.
A couple can also experiment with having the Knight wear other female clothing (as long as it is within the Knight's limits).
As Devotional Sex encourages spending time with some erotic fun before moving to any real sexual activity, there is time to enjoy the wearing of any kinky clothing.
Some items can also be enjoyed in the bedroom, but most are just fun to wear in the living room. There are also some items that can be worn under normal clothing when out in public.
If a Princess is interested in this area, she should ask her Knight if he already owns any kinky clothing. She might be surprised! If she likes anything, she can tell her Knight to wear it.
If a Princess owns anything interesting, she can enjoy the chance to show it off!
Devotional Friends can also go shopping together, or she can ask her Knight to buy a particular item.
Like with giving a Foot Kiss, this is something that the Knight might only `enjoy´ doing when he has very high erotic energy. It is also something that many Knights might have outside their limits (ie they will not do this).
If a Knight will do this he will rightly assume that the last thing the Princess did with her bud was to give it a good wash!
Giving a Bud Kiss may create a strong mix of feelings in the Knight. There will probably be strong feelings of submission to his Princess (which he may enjoy even if he is not keen to give the Bud Kiss). It may also make him even more wanting to give her a Pleasure Kiss.
The Princess may need to encourage her Knight to do the Bud Kiss by promising a more normal pleasure after. If he is keen to give a Pleasure Kiss, she could say "If you show me how keen you are to taste me, and your skill with your tongue, by kissing my Bud, I might let you give me a Pleasure Kiss after."
If a Princess is enjoying a back massage, this can (if the Princess wishes or allows) become more erotic if the Knight includes some kissing over her whole body. (If she would like this, and her Knight is not heading in this direction, she only needs to say "now use your mouth over my whole body".) If the Princess is still wearing her panties, and her Knight is becoming aroused by kissing her body, she could offer to let her Knight take her panties off if he gives her a bud kiss.
As with all activities with Devotional Sex, if you try some Bud Kissing take your time to experience and enjoy it properly before you move on to something else.
If a Princess wants to enjoy the pleasure of a Bud Kiss, and has a Knight who will do it, it is highly recommended.
As with all activities done by Devotional Friends, the activity must be something that the Knight is willing to do within that Devotional Friendship, and the activity will only happen if chosen by the Princess.
If you are excited by anything on this page I hope you are brave enough to give them a go. Have fun!
Index of more extreme erotic play ideas:
- Always naked Knight (More)
- Other people (More)
- Bondage (More)
- Spanking (More)
- Cuddle with Knight wearing a Butt Plug (More)
- Knight wearing panties (More)
- Kinky clothing (More)
- Bud Kiss (More)
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Always naked Knight
Taking the `nude or partially undressed Knight´ game to its extreme would be a Princess telling her Knight that whenever they were in a suitable place and alone together, he was always to be naked.This rule would certainly add a unique component to the Devotional Friendship! It would provide the Princess a fun reminder of her power, and her Knight would never forget that he has committed to obey her.
While starting to do this would initially feel strange (and exciting) to both, it would become rather special once both people started to feel that this was their new `normal´ way of being together. The nudity would have one feeling when there was some erotic play, but would feel very different when the friends were just doing non-sexual things together (dinner, watching a DVD, etc).
The Knight always naked rule can be used by Devotional Friends who do not engage in (other) erotic or sensual activities, or only do this sometimes. In these cases it would highlight that the Knight was wanting of his Princess and willing to obey her, and that the Princess had graciously accepted his Devotion but chosen not to move onto other activities.
This rule could be used by Devotees living together in a romantic relationship. But as they are so often together, and are together all hours of the day, the rule might be too impractical. Instead a Knight nude rule would best be applied only at certain times of the day.
As Devotional Friends are only occasionally together, it would be much easier to apply this rule all the time they are together (and alone in a suitable place). So this is a game which is easier and more practical for Devotional Friends to play than Devotees in a relationship.
My expectation is that the Knight always naked rule would work well in a Devotional Friendship where there is little or no sexual activity (but the Knight would like it if it happened), and in a sexual Devotional Friendship where the sexual activity was focused on pleasuring the Princess (ie the main activities are long Pleasure Kisses (and some Desire Play to give the Knight some pleasure), and perhaps no Desire Kisses.
I think that the Knight always naked rule would be a very interesting experiment to try in reality. For it to become normal for me to always be naked with a Devotional Friend would feel very special. For me it would tune in to some of the spiritual aspects of Devotional Sex as it would be symbolic of my commitment to Devotional Sex, and my celebration of the female forces of the universe. (See Chapter 7 for more on the spiritual aspects of Devotional Sex.)
Other people
Chapter 12 is about Devotional Sex and other people. This is just a brief summary of how this might apply to Devotional Friends.Everything done within Devotional Sex is consensual. The big difference between normal and Devotional Sex is that the Knight gives his consent well before anything happens, and he is then committed to obeying his Princess if she chooses to play within what he has consented may happen. (Of course he can always stop play if he finds that reality is much more traumatic than fantasy.)
Even if a Princess thinks she is very unlikely to ever include other people in even mild Devotional Sex activities, it can be an erotic and exciting experience for both Devotional Friends to discuss what could happen, and for the Knight to have to define what is allowed, and what is not. Of course the Knight will then never know whether or not something might happen, which creates some fun erotic tension for him. And even if the Princess knows within herself that she will never have her Knight do something, she can enjoy the feeling that if she did tell him to do something, he would.
Anything with a third (or more) person needs their consent as well. As the Princess decides what happens, it is usually her who ensures this consent.
Play with other people can be so mild that the other person does not realize there is any Devotional Sex play at work. In a casual group of friends situation a Princess might just have her Knight sit at her feet.
She could have her Knight give her a foot massage while they all chat. The Princess could then have her Knight give a foot massage to a female friend.
No Devotional Sex is apparent if a Princess says, for example, to her friend Jill:
"Sam enjoys giving foot massages. I am sure that he would give you one if you wanted."
"Sam, would like to give Jill a foot massage?"
Sam hears a Princess's order. Jill hears some normal conversation.
The next level of activity with other people is when the other person is told about Devotional Sex. If the other person has no interest in this, then the conversation does not last long. But if they are interested, then it is a very interesting experience to talk about it.
The final level of activity with another person is when the Princess uses her power to make something happen which the other person knows is about Devotional Sex.
Devotional Friendship is very liberating because it enables a couple to enjoy and explore erotic energy and sensual and sexual pleasures without any need or expectation to go the whole way. The Knight's high erotic energy (which has a Knight always wanting a bit more and to go a bit further) is balanced by Princess Power, and the Princess feels fully in control and happy to do only what she chooses.
Activity with another person is also very liberating because Devotional Sex keeps everything under female control, and makes it very easy to explore and have fun with doing only a little, or perhaps going a bit further in the way that the Princess chooses.
Bondage
Bondage can be part of Devotional Friendship play.A Princess might enjoy having her Knight with his hands tied behind his back, or enjoy tying him to the bed.
The Princess is in control over what happens, but this does not prevent her from enjoying any activity she chooses. So, for example, a Princess can choose to be tied to the bed so that she can then be teased and pleasured by her Knight.
Spanking
Some people like to play with light or hard spanking.For just a light spanking the dynamic is more about enjoying some theatrics than anything else.
For those who enjoy a heavier spanking, the play within a Devotional Friendship can provide a good opportunity.
The Princess is in control over what happens, but this does not prevent her from enjoying any activity she chooses. So a Princess can choose to receive a spanking as well as to give one.
Cuddle with Knight wearing a Butt Plug
This game will be outside the limits of what many Knight's will do. For those Knights willing to play this game, it can be a powerful experience for both the Princess and her Knight.Wearing a butt plug is an intense experience for a Knight. It can make everything else that is happening feel more intense, and can make the Knight feel vulnerable and controlled.
Usually a sex toy such as a butt plug is only be used during full sexual activity. As with many things, Devotional Sex enables some other possibilities.
The simplest, but very effective, is for the Princess to tell her Knight to leave the room and put the butt plug in, and then return fully dressed. He will not be the same man when he comes back! The couple might then enjoy just a cuddle, but it will feel very different for both of them. This is a very effective way of making a fully clothed cuddle a very intense and sexy experience.
Because even a moderately sized butt plug can feel rather intense, the Knight will need to feel fairly aroused when wearing it, and it may only be `comfortable´ to wear for between ten to sixty minutes (depending on the plug and the man).
Having the Knight wear a butt plug can also be used during any sexual activity to make the Knight feel more intense and vulnerable.
Knight wearing panties
The obvious time that having a male wear woman's clothes has an erotic component is when the male is aroused by cross-dressing. If the Knight does enjoy cross-dressing, there are many games in this area that the couple can play.But as with so much of Devotional Sex, the more interesting situation is the non-obvious case of making the Knight wear some female clothing when he is not aroused by cross-dressing. This is a very different game which is all about power and submission and not really about cross-dressing.
For a male who is not into cross-dressing, wearing female panties is a very strange experience. If he is nude apart from the panties, then the look is very different, especially if the panties are lace or have some feminine decoration. Also they feel very different - they are tight around his balls and Desire. So even if he is wearing the panties under normal clothing, he will always feel different.
If a man from a very foreign culture had to put on some panties, he might think they looked a bit strange, and they would not feel very comfortable, but this would not matter very much. This example makes it clear that the big effect of a man from our culture having to wear female panties derives from the fact that it is taboo. This is the main source of his discomfort, and though the look and feel are not too bad in themselves, this constantly reminds him that he is doing something taboo.
Making a Knight (who does not enjoy cross-dressing) wear some panties is an act of Princess Power, and Knightly submission. A Knight who enjoys feeling under his Princess's power may both hate having to wear the panties but also love the feeling of being under her power. So if the Knight enjoys feeling under a Princess's power, making him wear panties can work very well.
If the Knight does not enjoy submission, having to wear female panties may be so traumatic that it would be outside his limits (ie he will not do it). If in doubt, a Princess can always discuss with her Knight what is, and what is not, within his limits.
If the Knight does not own any panties in his size (which will often be the case), his Princess telling him he must go shopping and buy some which look feminine and are in his size will be both challenging and make him feel even more under his Princess's power.
If a Princess would enjoy her Knight feeling under her power when they go out together for dinner, telling him that he must wear panties is very effective.
And if a Princess, when they are alone together, likes the idea of her Knight not being fully dressed, but does not want him naked, then having him just wear panties is an effective way of making him feel very much under her control.
A couple can also experiment with having the Knight wear other female clothing (as long as it is within the Knight's limits).
Kinky clothing
Sex stores and BDSM and Fetish stores have a very varied and often surprising amount of kinky clothing. Even if you have no interest in BDSM activities, some of this clothing can be fun and add a theatrical element to your Devotional Friendship.As Devotional Sex encourages spending time with some erotic fun before moving to any real sexual activity, there is time to enjoy the wearing of any kinky clothing.
Some items can also be enjoyed in the bedroom, but most are just fun to wear in the living room. There are also some items that can be worn under normal clothing when out in public.
If a Princess is interested in this area, she should ask her Knight if he already owns any kinky clothing. She might be surprised! If she likes anything, she can tell her Knight to wear it.
If a Princess owns anything interesting, she can enjoy the chance to show it off!
Devotional Friends can also go shopping together, or she can ask her Knight to buy a particular item.
Bud Kiss
The bud is a very sensitive area, and it is very pleasurable to have this kissed and tongued.Like with giving a Foot Kiss, this is something that the Knight might only `enjoy´ doing when he has very high erotic energy. It is also something that many Knights might have outside their limits (ie they will not do this).
If a Knight will do this he will rightly assume that the last thing the Princess did with her bud was to give it a good wash!
Giving a Bud Kiss may create a strong mix of feelings in the Knight. There will probably be strong feelings of submission to his Princess (which he may enjoy even if he is not keen to give the Bud Kiss). It may also make him even more wanting to give her a Pleasure Kiss.
The Princess may need to encourage her Knight to do the Bud Kiss by promising a more normal pleasure after. If he is keen to give a Pleasure Kiss, she could say "If you show me how keen you are to taste me, and your skill with your tongue, by kissing my Bud, I might let you give me a Pleasure Kiss after."
If a Princess is enjoying a back massage, this can (if the Princess wishes or allows) become more erotic if the Knight includes some kissing over her whole body. (If she would like this, and her Knight is not heading in this direction, she only needs to say "now use your mouth over my whole body".) If the Princess is still wearing her panties, and her Knight is becoming aroused by kissing her body, she could offer to let her Knight take her panties off if he gives her a bud kiss.
As with all activities with Devotional Sex, if you try some Bud Kissing take your time to experience and enjoy it properly before you move on to something else.
If a Princess wants to enjoy the pleasure of a Bud Kiss, and has a Knight who will do it, it is highly recommended.