Devotional Friends - Erotic Fun

Last updated: 13 April 2008
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8: Getting Started: Devotional Friends

Erotic Fun

Erotic fun is playing games, and setting up scenarios, where erotic energy is played with and enjoyed by both participants. The games can range from fairly mild up to very explicit and just one step away from sharing significant sexual pleasure.

Erotic fun within a Devotional Friendship is the most fun and liberating part of a Devotional Friendship.

This section covers the whole range of erotic fun, up until the sharing of real sexual pleasure. Significant Pleasure Play, Desire Play, Pleasure Kisses, Desire Kisses are all covered here.

Erotic fun is tremendous fun for grown-ups. Unfortunately our societies `normal´ way of behaving makes enjoying such fun a rare event.

Those who are moving towards full sexual activity almost always pass through the erotic fun stage far too quickly.

And people who do not want to go as far as significant sexual activity avoid erotic fun because the `normal´ expectation is that raising erotic energy must lead to sexual activity.

One of the reasons that Devotional Sex puts more fun into Devotees sex lives is that it encourages Devotees to play with erotic fun. With Devotional Sex in a romantic relationship there is no rush to get to sexual activity, and the sexual activity may not even happen immediately after the erotic fun - it might not happen for a few hours, or even until the next day. But in a romantic relationship erotic fun is still mainly a warm-up to significant sexual activity.

Within a Devotional Friendship, erotic fun can also be a warm-up to sharing significant sexual pleasures. Because being Devotional Friends means that you have both agreed that you will not share Joy, if erotic fun does inspire some sexual activity then this will be enjoyed without things ending up "going all the way".

But what makes a Devotional Friendship very different and liberating, is that erotic fun can be enjoyed without ever leading to significant sexual activity.

Whether the erotic games are mild to wild, happen just for a short time or are played throughout the evening, and even if the Knight is very aroused, being a Knight means accepting that things may go no further.

Devotional Sex changes Devotees ideas of what is `normal´, or at least changes what is normal for them. Before Devotional Sex it was probably normal for you that creating high erotic energy would lead to sexual activity, and sexual activity would end with a male Climax.

Devotional Sex changes this so that it becomes normal for a Knight in a romantic relationship not to Climax at the end of most sexual sessions. And a Knight in a Devotional Friendship should never Climax when with his Princess.

Of course it is not `normal´ to play with erotic energy and not move towards real sexual pleasures. But the assumption that enjoying playing with arousal must lead to full sexual activity is just as wrong as the assumption that sexual activity must lead to male Climax.

Being able to have erotic fun with a friend without any compulsion for further sexual activity opens up a whole new world of adult fun and play. Freeing yourself from the `all or nothing´ straight-jacket is very liberating!

Devotional Sex is always about enjoying what you are doing. So Devotional Friends can decide to enjoy the teasing and energy of some erotic games as their main bit of fun. Princess Power (and the Knight's limits) are used to ensure that nothing further happens unless both people are willing.

If Devotional Friends sometimes do share sexual pleasures, and one night the Princess wants to have some erotic fun, but not become more sexual that night, she should let her Knight know early on that it will be a night of fun only. While the Knight is meant to be enjoying the moment, there is always some expectation of what might happen next. If sexual activity has happened before, then his expectation for some sexual activity will be higher. Letting him know early on that things will not progress that far enables him to lower his expectations, and avoids him being disappointed at the end of the night

If, at the end of any erotic games, one or both people have very high sexual energy, then it is a good idea to end with a nice long cuddle. This cuddle will be very sexually charged, but it can still be a chaste cuddle. It gives the erotic energy a chance to go down while still feeling connected with your partner. Not ending with a cuddle can leave the person who wants a cuddle feeling rejected.

Princess Power (and the Knight's limits) will determine what games can take place.

The games can include touching and kissing (to all parts). In just a game this is all done in a teasing and fun way. At some point touching and kissing starts to become sharing of real sexual pleasure. If a couple are happy to move to sharing real sexual pleasure then the line between fun teasing and real pleasure does not matter. If the couple do not want the activities to move to real sharing of sexual pleasure, then the person who does not want things to go that far needs to either stop that activity for a while, or move it back towards being more just fun and teasing.

If the Knight is submissive, then the Princess can have fun playing with his submission. The Princess can always ask her Knight to suggest things, and if she wants to play closer to the edge she can ask him to "suggest something more extreme that you will do that will make the night more memorable."

If it is the Knight who is most keen to play, then the possibilities for the Princess are many. When she feels very comfortable that he accepts that only what she allows will happen, she can fully enjoy having him very aroused, and him being her play thing.

If it is the Princess who is most keen to play, she needs to be careful that her Knight will go along with what she would like to do, and that he will not become too frustrated at the end.

Playing erotic games without going further may initially feel very strange. But just like a Knight gets used to not Climaxing at the end of most sexual activity, Devotional Friends can quickly become accustomed to playing some games without also enjoying a full sexual relationship.

If a Princess likes a particular game, and the Knight is willing, then playing this game could become a `normal´ part of how they spend time together. That they both enjoy playing this erotic game, and the dynamic it produces, and yet may never go as far as having full sexual activity, can make the Devotional Friendship a very fun and unique experience!

Play ideas

Devotional Sex enables a huge amount of variation on how things are done. Each couple will find what works best for them, and so every couple will do things in a unique way.

The following play ideas might seem strange. The reason for suggesting them is not just to do things differently. Rather it is to find fun ways to better explore and enjoy the sharing of erotic energy. It is not what is done that is important. It is the feelings and emotions that arise whilst you are doing the activity.

Of course to play these games requires that the game is within the Knight's limits, and that either the Princess `requests´ the game, or the Knight suggests it and she agrees to play it.

The play ideas are intended to get you started and to inspire you to think of your own ideas or variations on these ideas. You are not doing Devotional Sex `right´ if you follow the suggestions below. You are doing it `right´ when it feels right to you and your partner.

Please ignore all the ideas you do not like, and I hope you enjoy the ideas that you think sound fun.

Index of play ideas: