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No Joy is not being prudish
The reason that Devotional Friends never share Joy
has nothing to do with being prudish or conservative. In fact it is the
opposite. The aim is to enable more activities to be enjoyed with more
friends.
The main reason that the concept of Devotional Friends is not prudish is that if both friends want to include Joy in their activities they can. They are then no longer Devotional Friends, but have become Devotional Lovers.
Sexual Friends
If
two friends would like to share some sexual pleasures together, but one
doesn't want to go as far as Joy, the concept of becoming Devotional
Friends enables them to both agree that their future activities will
not include Joy.Without such a prior understanding, the person who doesn't want intercourse, and who goes ahead and enjoys some sexual activities with their friend, might let intercourse happen because they feel that having gone so far, intercourse is now expected.
The person who doesn't want intercourse can, of course, decided that the best way of avoiding intercourse is to never become sexual with their friend. In this case nothing sexual ever happens, and they both miss out on some fun and sexual pleasures.
I see nothing prudish or conservative in making it easier for a person to not do something they do not wish to do.
The benefit of excluding Joy from the definition of Devotional Friends is that now instead of one person saying "no" to all sexual activity because they don't want to go all the way, they can now agree to become Devotional Friends, and enjoy the other sexual pleasures together.
So the concept of Devotional Friends has enabled more sexual activity to happen than would have occurred otherwise.
Cuddle and Massage Friends
Devotional Sex accepts (and relishes) that even just massages and cuddles between friends has an erotic component.One of the main reasons that friends who would enjoy sharing cuddles and massages do not do so is that such intimacy can become the first step towards sexual activity.
Becoming Devotional Friends means that the erotic component of cuddles and massages is acknowledged and accepted,
and that even if the Knight becomes very aroused, the cuddles and massages may never lead on to sexual activity.
A Princess can feel safe and comfortable cuddling an aroused Devotional Friend because she knows that this will be as far as things go (unless she decides she wants to go further).
Not including Joy as part of being Devotional Friends makes a big symbolic difference to the feel of the dynamic even for friends who do not become sexual. Removing this `normal´ last activity makes it feel much more natural for a Princess to decide that other sexual activities will not happen either.
In `normal´ life cuddles and massages might only be enjoyed with friends who you find attractive enough to want to include sexual activities. Becoming Devotional Friends enables cuddles and massages to be enjoyed without ever leading to sexual activity, and so you can now enjoy some cuddles and massages with more of your friends.
Rather than being prudish, the concept of Devotional Friends enables you to share and enjoy cuddles and massages (including an erotic component) with friends who you otherwise would not.
Ending with some relaxing sexual activity
Having Joy not be a possible final activity also
makes it feel safe and comfortable for a Princess to chose to end a
session which has mainly been cuddles and massages with some Desire Play or a receiving a Pleasure Kiss.
When you both know that this sexual activity at the end of a session will not lead to Joy, the sexual activity become a very nice finale to the session.
The feel of such sexual activity at the end of a session is very different from normal lovers. Instead of it being foreplay which creates very high erotic energy leading on to more, it tends to be relaxing and very sensual. It becomes a nice celebration and thank-you for what has gone on before, and does not feel like a tease which is should lead on to more. Enjoying such moment of intimacy and sexual pleasure are one of the unique joys of Devotional Sex.
Once again, by removing the possibility of Joy, it has become easier for friends to agree to enjoy sharing some sexual pleasures.
Erotic Fun
Not
including Joy also makes it much easier for friends to agree to enjoy
having some erotic fun together. Such games can be lots of fun even
with a friend who you would never want to have Joy with. Agreeing to be Devotional Friends enables a Princess to enjoy having a very aroused friend, enjoy playing with his energy, and do all this without any expectation that things will go further.
It feels very liberating to enjoy erotic fun with friends other than your lovers. `Normal´ life is that you do everything or nothing. Becoming Devotional Friends opens up the middle ground, and this is made possible in part because things never go as far as Joy.
More activities with more friends
You might have only one or two friends you would consider having as a lover or `friend with benefits´.But you probably have many more friends who would make fun Devotional Friends. Not including Joy in the definition of Devotional Friends makes it possible to enjoy activities and have fun with all these friends.
