The Devotional Sex 0 to 5 scale

A useful aid to communicating limits and likes and dislikes is the Devotional Sex 0 to 5 scale.

Unlike other scales this scale includes a rating for edgy activities which a Knight both likes and dislikes.

One of the fun things about being a Princess is that whenever she wishes she can ask her Knight to rate any sexual or sensual activity.

This not only lets her know what she is able to command her Knight to do (and what he will not do), but for those things he is willing to do it lets her know how he feels about each activity.

The Devotional Sex scale for rating activities is:

5      Really likes the activity
4        Likes the activity
3        Both likes and dislikes the activity
2        Dislikes the activity
1        Very much dislikes the activity (but will do it)
0        Outside my limits (I will not do this)

A plus or minus can be added to a rating to show some extra keenness or trepidation.

The above scale is different from all others that I have seen because everyone else uses the middle rating (3) for `I feel neutral about that activity´.

The Devotional Sex scale does not have a neutral rating, and so a Knight must decide whether he slightly likes or dislikes any activity he feels neutral about. If he slightly likes the activity he rates it a 4, and if he slightly dislikes, or would slightly prefer not do have to do the activity, he rates it a 2.

If asked to write down his ratings for a list of activities, the Knight can also be asked to tick those activities which he has done before. This lets his Princess know which activities will be new to him.

The power and meaning of a rating of 3

Instead of a rating of 3 being neutral, the Devotional Sex scale uses 3 to mean both like and dislike, or both really like and really dislike.

The reason that such a complex option is needed is that the emotions and feelings of real-life Devotional Sex are complex.

The type of activity that is most likely to be both liked and disliked by a Knight is one where the activity itself is disliked but having to do the activity will generate submissive feelings that are enjoyed.

For example, giving a Foot Kiss might be something that a Knight does not particular want to do, but he knows that having to do this would generate submissive feelings which he would enjoy. So he dislikes the idea of giving a Foot Kiss, but likes the idea of being made to do this. He thus rates giving a Foot Kiss 3.

A rating of 3 can also be given when the activity would be liked but he also feels nervous and apprehensive about doing the activity (perhaps because it will be his first experience).

For example, having to obey the Reveal command in a new situation (such as in front of one of his Princess's friends) may be something that a Knight would like to do, but also be something that he also finds very scary. If he really likes the idea (5) but is also really nervous (1) he would rate this activity as a 3+.

Activities a Knight rates a 1 will be his most pleasurable parts of practicing Devotional Sex, and having to do anything he rates at a 5 will be the things he has to put up with to enjoy all the other benefits of being a Knight.

But because of the complexity of emotions generated by doing activities which are rated 3, these are likely to be some of the most exciting and edgy things that are done within Devotional Sex.

Using hand signals

A Knight can use hand signals to show a rating.

Using hand signals would be useful in a social setting where if a Princess mentions something as a possible action, her Knight is able to secretly let her know whether or not this action is still within his limits, and if it is still within his limits let her know how he feels at that time about doing the activity.

A clenched fist is zero ie not within his limits. Opening up the fist to show just one finger is a rating of 1, and more fingers are show all the way up to a fully open hand which is a 5.

For example, a couple may have discussed the possibility of the Knight being told to Reveal in front of one of the Princess's friends.

Beforehand this may have been a powerful fantasy of the Knight. But sometimes facing the reality of having to do something can lead to unexpected emotions.

Using the hand signals enables the Knight to tell his Princess how he is feeling when faced with the reality that something might happen. A clenched fist would tell his Princess that having to be naked in front of a friend was a great fantasy, but he now realizes that this is something that he cannot bring himself to do in real-life.

And if the Knight were to respond with a rating between 1 and 5, the Princess now knows that if she does say "Reveal" her Knight will obey. And she also knows how her Knight is feeling.

What, if anything, happens next is up to her.

Chapter 5: Princess Power