Devotional Tao
Chapter 3: Devotional Tao
Warnings and disclaimer
There
is a possibility that not ejaculating after most sexual activity may
lead to health
problems.
Also, a couple may experience times of emotional stress while learning Devotional Sex.
You need to make your own decision about whether or not to practice Devotional Sex, and the author is not responsible for any health or emotional problems which may arise as a result.
Also, a couple may experience times of emotional stress while learning Devotional Sex.
You need to make your own decision about whether or not to practice Devotional Sex, and the author is not responsible for any health or emotional problems which may arise as a result.
Potential health problems from not ejaculating
Devotional Sex draws from two modes of ejaculation denial – the multi-orgasmic man technique, taken from Tao, and BDSM-style ejaculation denial. In practicing ejaculation denial within Devotional Sex, a Knight will experience a level of intensity somewhere above the meditative calm of Tao but below the extreme intensity of BDSM-style ejaculation denial.
The multi-orgasmic man technique is promoted as a part of Tao, and this technique is said to provide "increased vitality and longevity".
Even so, at the beginning of The Multi-Orgasmic Man, a popular book on the technique, authors Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Arava advise that "people who have high blood pressure, heart disease, or a generally weak condition should proceed slowly in the practice".
They also advise, as do I, that "If you have a medical condition, a medical doctor should be consulted".
Though Tao claims the practice increases longevity, preliminary scientific research suggests that more frequent ejaculations may reduce the chance of getting prostate cancer. For example, see http://menshealth.about.com/cs/prostatehealth/a/ejaculate_ptate.htm and http://www.webmd.com/prostate-cancer/news/20040406/frequent-ejaculation-prostate
As far as I know, this research was concerned with how often men ejaculate within a normal sex life, and there is no scientific research on the health benefits or dangers associated with either practicing the Taoist multi-orgasmic man technique or BDSM-style ejaculation denial.
I suspect that many experts in the field are unaware of how easily a man can learn to orgasm without ejaculating, which is one of the reasons why it is hard to get informed advice.
As BDSM-style ejaculation denial is much more intense (for both body and mind) than the calmer Taoist technique, I suspect that the former which would be most likely to lead to long-term health problems.
I am certainly not going to assure readers that practicing Devotional Sex is safe, as a recent biopsy of my prostate has diagnosed a suspicion of an abnormality, and my prostrate may require treatment one day.
Whilst it is possible that my prostate has been affected by my practice of Devotional Sex, my condition may just be the result of bad luck and might have happened anyway. Alternatively, my health may have been more affected by other lifestyle issues such as diet, alcohol consumption and stress than by my sexual practices.
Practicing Devotional Sex with a higher intensity for the Knight can certainly make things more fun. But for overall health I recommend, just to play it safe, that men who practice Devotional Sex (or just ejaculation denial or Tao) ejaculate a bit more often and keep themselves at a slightly lower intensity than they would otherwise. This is not all bad, as erotic meditation is both fun and refreshing.
For me, despite my bad luck, the rewards of practicing Devotional Sex have been great.
But as there may be a health risk to practicing Devotional Sex I urge every potential Knight to decide for themselves.
If you find further information on the health benefits or risks of Devotional Sex please contact me so that I can update this page.
Emotional stress while learning Devotional Sex
Before starting Devotional Sex you need to accept that the path will not always be easy.
Once a couple have become used to living Devotional Sex there is usually a comfortable balance between the Knight's desire for sex and his Princess's wish not to be sexual all of the time.
An experienced Knight can manage his own erotic energy and if it becomes too high he can calm himself.
And an experienced Princess is easily able to initiate activities that calm her Knight, or make him `behave himself´ if his erotic energy is annoying her.
Devotional Sex works well in practice because if a Knight's desire for activity is too high when nothing is happening, both the Knight and his Princess are able to take action to restore balance.
But when first learning Devotional Sex a new Knight is not as good at controlling his erotic energy, and his new Princess is not yet relaxed and comfortable in using her power over him.
When learning Devotional Sex a Knight might feel emotional stress, or even have an emotional explosion, if his erotic energy gets out of control and he feels that his Princess is ignoring him.
And a new Princess might feel emotional stress, or even have an emotional explosion, if she feels too much pressure from her Knight to take part in sexual activity all the time.
Just being aware of the possibility of this emotional stress while learning Devotional Sex can enable a couple to avoid the worst. But even so, it is likely that there will be a few instances of emotional stress as both Devotees are getting used to their new roles.
