His Desire has a `mind of its own´
His Desire has a `mind of its own´ | Learning to Crest | Chapter 3: Devotional Tao
Never Climax in some positions
If a Knight is never
allowed to Climax in some positions, then over time it becomes much
easier for him to keep control in these positions. This can have great
advantages for both.
The Knight never Climaxing in some Joy positions is a very effective way for him to gain better control. This not only makes it easier for him not to accidentally Climax in these never-Climax positions, but it makes it easier for him to enjoy Joy without feeling he is about to Climax.
Though this method is very effective, it takes a long time for a Knight's body to learn that Climaxing does not happen in the never-Climax positions. So this is a long term strategy.
The effectiveness of this method is also very easily weakened by having just one accidental or deliberate Climax in a never-Climax position. So a couple wanting to use this technique must be prepared to be strict with themselves.
This means that whenever they are in a never-Climax position and the Knight asks for things to slow down so that he can regain control, his Princess must slow down or stop to ensure that he does not accidentally Climax. And it means that a Princess can never tell her Knight to deliberately Climax in a never-Climax position.
Crests are still allowed
A Knight never Climaxing in a position does not mean that he cannot enjoy Crests in that position.
In fact leaning to Crest in a position is a good way for a Knight to master control of himself in that position.
A Princess may find that having her Knight Crest in a position provides some similar feelings and sensations to him Climaxing. The two main differences are that his Crests are usually less intense than a Climax, and that a Knight can Crest again and again which feels very different from just the one Climax.
When a Knight Crests he does not loose his erotic energy, so another huge difference is that after his Crests he remains erect and so Joy can continue for as long as his Princess wishes.
Expectations
In Devotional Sex a Knight only Climaxes when his Princess says, and he Climaxes when his Princess says.
Whenever a couple are enjoying Joy in a position in which the Knight is sometimes allowed to Climax, the Knight is always aware that his Princess might say "Cum Now", and he will be allowed to / have to Climax.
So lovemaking in these positions has the Knight never knowing what is going to happen, and this makes him aware of the power his Princess has over him.
When making love in a never-Climax position, the Joy will have a different dynamic because the Knight knows that in this position he will not be allowed to Climax.
This certainty that he will not Climax while in this never-Climax position is also a powerful feeling of his being under his Princess's power. This feels very different to the Knight from the uncertainty of a not knowing whether or not his Princess will say "Cum Now". The certainty that he will not Climax in a never-Climax position means that he can just relax and enjoy the sensations of the Joy, with the feeling of being under his Princess's Power now coming from the knowledge that this Joy has nothing to do with his Climax, making the Joy feel that it is very much about his Princess's enjoyment.
Because of his high erotic energy a Knight is likely to be aware of the devotional dynamic associated with Joy every time he has Joy. This will be the case even when his Princess is not thinking about the power dynamic.
The psychological effect of these expectations is very effective and beneficial for keeping the Devotional dynamic active. A Princess with a Knight who has such good control that restrictions on which positions he may Climax in are not needed to help him have better control, might still decide to set some never-Climax positions just to enjoy the psychological effects on her Knight.
Though a Princess may often enjoy Joy without thinking about the power dynamic, whenever she does think about it she will also enjoy the feelings from this power dynamic.
A Princess can even have fun teasing her Knight about this situation.
For example, in a never-Climax position she could say "Your Desire feels very much mine because it will never cum when we do this."
And in a sometimes Climax position she could say "I might have you cum soon (pause) or maybe I won't."
Which positions?
It is up to the Princess to decide which position or positions she will set as a never-Climax position for her Knight.
This should be done in consultation with her Knight as his input may help her decide what will work best for them both.
As this method of improving a Knight's control is optional, some Princess's may prefer to have their Knight Climax whenever they wish, irrespective of which position they are in at the time. In this case the couple will not have any never-Climax positions.
Some Princess's may choose just one position as his never-Climax position.
Others might decide that her Knight will only be allowed to Climax in one position, thus making all other positions never-Climax positions.
The Ride Position - recommended as a never-Climax position
I recommend that a Knight is never allowed to Climax in the Ride position. This is for several reasons.
Firstly, in this position it is the woman who does most of the movements and sets the pace. If the Knight feels that the sensations need to be calmed down for a few moments so that he can regain control over his Desire then this can only be achieved if he asks his Princess to slow down. This disrupts the lovemaking both by him having to verbally ask, and by his Princess having to act on his request. So the better control the Knight has in this position the less he will need to ask for things to slow down, and the better the flow of the lovemaking.
Another reason for not allowing the Knight to Climax in this position is that this is one of the best positions for a woman to reach orgasm during Joy. The better the Knight's control in this position the more his Princess is able to let herself go and bring herself to orgasm.
In fact if the Knight has bad control over his Desire in this position his Princess may be unable to reach orgasm because either he accidentally ejaculates first, or her having to keep stopping to let him regain control breaks her rhythm too much for her to be able to reach orgasm.
As this position has the woman in control over the pace and movement, this position is one in which even in ordinary sex the woman feels more powerful, in control, and in charge. This feeling of power can be enhanced within Devotional Sex if it becomes a position where both know that the Princess may orgasm but her Knight never will Climax.
The Cuddle position
The Cuddle position is a very easy position for the Knight to maintain control over his Desire.
The position itself is relaxing, and it is the Knight who has most of the control over the speed and intensity of the Joy.
Joy in the Cuddle position is usually restful, relaxing Joy. It can be a final sexual activity for a session, and a couple could even start to fall asleep in this position. From this perspective the Cuddle position would be a good position to set as one in which the Knight never Climaxes.
On the other hand, because this position is so easy for a Knight to keep control, occasionally allowing him to Climax in this position is unlikely to lead to him having trouble controlling himself at other times.
Perhaps the way for a Princess to decide whether or not this will be a never-Climax position is to decide whether she prefers her Knight to never know what might happen in this position, or whether she likes the idea of her Knight knowing that he will never be allowed to Climax in this position.
The Power position - recommended as the Climax position
The Power position has the Knight very much in control over the pace and movements of the Joy. This means that it is very easy for him to slow down or pause for a few seconds whenever he feels he needs to regain control. So even if he is used to Climaxing in this position, a Knight should be able to keep control over his Desire by adjusting his pace as needed.
The Power position is thus a good position in which to allow the Knight to sometimes Climax. And if he is only allowed to Climax in one position, this is a good position to pick.
The Power position was given this name because of the double feeling that on one hand the Knight feels powerful in this position, but on the other his Princess has the real power because she has control over his Climax. This is further explained in Chapter 1: Why these words for sexual positions were chosen.
The Power position - maybe a never-Climax position
A Princess who enjoys her Knight being fairly fast and hard in the Power position might find that if her Knight is used to Climaxing in this position he will often not have enough control to be able to do lots of harder strokes.
A Knight who never Climaxes in the Power position will eventually learn much better control.
So some Princess's, rather than making the Power position the position in which they allow their Knight to Climax, might want to make this a position in which their Knight never has a Climax.
This would mean that if they were to enjoy the Knight sometimes Climaxing during Joy it would have to be in a different position.
If the Princess likes to reach orgasm in the Ride position then this should also be a never-Climax position for the Knight.
So this leaves the Cuddle or Deep positions as the position in which the Knight is sometimes allowed to Climax.
All positions are never-Climax
Just because a Princess must sometimes allow her Knight to Climax does not mean that this need occur during Joy.
A Princess could decide that her Knight will never Climax during Joy.
Deciding to implement this means that a Knight will from now on miss out on the pleasures he gets when he is allowed to Climax during Joy. It also means that the Princess will miss out on the pleasures she feels when her Knight Climaxes inside her.
One advantage of this extreme option is that the Knight will over time gain much better control of himself during intercourse.
This option is probably far too extreme for most couples who practice Devotional Sex.
It is probably only suitable for couples where the Princess does not really enjoy her Knight Climaxing inside her, and she likes the idea of using her Princess Power to ensure that this never happens again.
A Knight who enjoys feeling very submissive to his Princess might actually like the idea of this restriction.
Otherwise her Knight would need to be willing to accept this restriction as part of the price he pays for being her Knight.
