Last updated: 9 July 2010
This is fun!
Once
again, because this was Devotional Sex between friends, there was no
pressure or expectation that anything further would happen. So we both
relaxed and really enjoyed this dynamic together for quiet a long time.
And doing something for a long time really changes the feel of what you are doing.
At one stage Tracey's face lit up and she said "This is lots of fun!"
Yes
it was!
And it was also pretty much perfect Devotional Sex with a
friend. Sensuality, sexuality, and arousal were all being enjoyed, but
this was done without any feeling or expectation that this would lead
to full sexual activity.
Normally with a friend it is either
nothing happens or you become full friends with benefits. I know that
Tracey does not want to go all the way with me, so normally our
friendship would thus have had to remain chaste. But by being her Knight we
are able to play in this fun and erotic middle ground.
As we were both very much enjoying what we were doing we just relaxed and kept going.
As well as her foot on my erection being a sexual pleasure, it also worked incredibly well because it kept me hard.
The
first time Tracey I had been naked at Tracey's feet we had both enjoyed
the sexually charged atmosphere. But as I had never gotten fully hard,
we both knew that the energies could have become much higher.
This
time was very different. Before Tracey had used her foot to touch me I
had spent some time fully erect. And now Tracey was using her foot to
keep me fully aroused.
And she did keep me this way - for over twenty minutes she kept me hard as I continued to massage her feet.
A Devotional Sex Tantric ceremony
It was only many weeks later that I realized that what we were
doing was like a Tantric ceremony.
Creating and maintaining a relaxed but powerful connection based on erotic energy is very Tantric.
I was submitting to and worshiping the female
Goddess in Tracey, and she was using her Goddess powers to keep me
energized and was accepting my male energies.
And the Devotional Sex component of what we were doing was not just enhancing the Tantric ceremony, but was making it possible.
With
normal Tantra there is more of an equality between the male and the
female. And when a ceremony is enjoyed by a couple, other balanced
sexual acts are likely to follow.
With Devotional Sex the power
was not balanced - as a Knight I must do anything sensual or sexual my
Princess wishes. Our power dynamic was very apparent with her mainly
dressed while she sat on the sofa and me naked at her feet. I was
submitting to the Goddess.
Tracey's power was also enhanced by
her keeping me fully aroused and desiring of her for so long and us
both knowing that this would probably not lead to further sexual
activity later on. This was worshiping the Goddess without my expecting
sexual rewards.
And in normal Tantra the sexual rewards are
usually intercourse. In a normal Tantric ceremony both the male and
female are at the same level. They look into each other's eyes, and
with this dynamic intercourse is the way to connect further.
But in this ceremony I was at Tracey's feet, and it was her Pleasure
that was at my eye level. And, as I said earlier, with a Devotional
Friend my sexual desire is focused on the desire to give my Princess
oral sex. This desire is a lovely way to worship a Goddess.
The Tantric aspects of what we were doing were powered by my high arousal - made visible by my erection.
In
a normal Tantric ceremony where a couple are just relaxing together in
celebration of erotic energy it is difficult to think of a way that the
man's high arousal (and erection) can be maintained without
stimulation. But in our ceremony it worked very well and felt very
natural for Tracey to keep me aroused by playing with me with her foot.
So Devotional Sex not only enhanced the Tantric aspects,
but the foot play provided the stimulation needed to power the whole
ceremony.
Different levels of arousal
In normal Tantra both the male and female tend to have similar levels of erotic energy.
Devotional
Sex differs in that it is common to have some times when the Knight has
much higher erotic energy than his Princess. With Devotional Sex what
is important is that both the Princess and her Knight enjoy what
happens, and it is common in Devotional Sex for a Princess to use her
Knight's erotic energy to enjoy sensuality and intimacy even when she
does not feel aroused.
This was what was happening with Tracey and me.
Even
though Tracey was deliberately keeping me fully aroused, and so for me
what we were doing was highly sexual, for her this experience was
appreciated and enjoyed for other reasons.
Once
again I was feeling fairly exhausted when I visited Michael. And the
massages created a strong feeling of relaxation. So I never got
properly sexually aroused.
Rather I enjoyed both the
excitement and relaxation aspects of what we were doing and just
relaxed and enjoyed things, as opposed to getting aroused which would
have required more energy.
From
a Tantric perspective what we were doing worked very well because we
both felt connected with each other and the energies flowed freely. It
did not matter that we both felt different levels of arousal because we
both enjoyed how we were feeling and could see that the other person
was also enjoying their role.
The Devotional Sex power dynamic
helped us both relax into what we were doing. If Tracey had felt that
getting me aroused meant that she would be expected to engage in
further sexual activity then she would not have enjoyed my arousal. And
if I had been expecting to ejaculate at the end I would not have felt
as relaxed about being in the moment of what we did.
Had I become aroused without taking it further I may have felt a bit frustrated
Michael replies:There are three ways to deal with the possibility of getting very aroused:The
first is to keep things mild so that you don't get aroused. This is the
worst option as it makes arousal into something to be avoided rather
than something to be celebrated and enjoyed.The second way is
to use a Tantric approach whereby arousal is something that is
enjoyable to feel even if things go no further. Particularly with
males, arousal is often thought of as something which has to be got rid
off by having a Climax. The Climax at the end is sometimes even called
getting `relief´. So, just like I did with this adventure, you
can decide that feeling aroused is good in itself without feeling that you need to
do anything further.And of course the third way is to have your
Knight pleasure you. With a Devotional Friend a Princess can receive
sexual pleasures without being expected to ever reciprocate. Before
taking her Knight to bed a Princess can tell him to put his underpants
back on. What was fully exposed during the foot massage now becomes
covered. In bed you only need to say "Ritual" to have your Knight give you oral pleasure for as long as you wish. Some of my arousal during this adventure was powered by fantasies of the third option.
A few minute of Cresting
I
had now been erect for about thirty minutes, and this had build up my
erotic energy to the level where I could very easily have some
non-ejaculatory
orgasms.
So I said to Tracey "Would you like to see me orgasm?"
Tracey's
face showed that what I had said had surprised her, and instead of
answering my question she paused in anticipation of further
explanation.
I instantly knew why I had surprised her. I
had been telling her that as her Devotional Friend I would never
ejaculate when with her. What I had just suggested made it sound like I
was trying to renege on that promise.
So I quickly added "I don't mean ejaculate. Would you like to see me have an orgasm without ejaculating?"
She looked relieved that I had not changed the rules of the game.
Her foot gently playing with my erection felt great, and I very much liked the idea of her making me Crest
with just her foot. So when she replied that she would like a
demonstration, it only took a few seconds before my body was shuddering
with a non-ejaculatory orgasm.
For a minute or two I continued to have Crest after Crest.
Seeing
Michael orgasm without ejaculating was a novelty to me!
In a way, a
woman orgasms without physical evidence (so to speak), so the reaction
wasn’t all new. But still, for a male it was a bit unusual.
Running out of energy I finally relaxed and stopped Cresting.
As there was no ejaculation I still had high erotic energy and was still fully erect.
We then went back to how we were before - me massaging her feet and she with her other foot on my erection.
As we were enjoying our
experience neither of us watched the clock, so it is hard to know how
long we spent that evening with me erect at Tracey's feel. Maybe it was only 40 minutes, or maybe it was for over an hour.
She watches me play with myself
Eventually Tracey had had enough foot massage and said "That's enough foot massage for tonight."
She moved her feet so that they both rested on the floor in front of the
sofa.
Sitting
there naked at her feet and still hard, I asked if she would like to
watch me play with myself.
She nodded, and I asked her "Would you like
me to stand up so you can see me closer, or just do it sitting here?"
She had me stay sitting at her feet.
It
felt different from before to play with myself while she watched. Of
course my hand was not nearly as nice as her foot. I felt very much on
show.
Watching
Michael play with himself was nice.
Given that we had created a very
erotic energy field around us, and his playing with himself was very
much in this context and added to that energy, it felt like a grand
finale.
In other scenarios it may or may not be that enjoyable
– it all depends on the atmosphere. In this case we created the
right one.
Ending the adventure
After not too long she said "that's all for tonight, you can get dressed now."
We
had been enjoying our activities for such a long time that it felt easy
for me to accept that our activities were over.
Tonight had been like a real Taoist
session. Because I had enjoyed about an hour of full sexual arousal,
and this had included many Crests, even though I was still erect when
Tracey said she had had enough I did not feel any sexual frustration
about having to stop. My body and mind felt that I had had enough sex
for now, and even though I had not ejaculated, I felt sexually
satisfied.
But I felt that putting
my clothes back on would be too disruptive a change to the feeling.
So I asked, "Can't I stay naked a bit longer?"
Of
course if she had replied "No, I want you to get dressed now" then I
would have obeyed. But I was pleased that she allowed me to stay naked.
Even though Michael asked to be allowed to stay naked for longer, I still felt in control as I allowed him to do this.
I
allowed him to remain naked because I knew that he would enjoy it.
And
I'm pleased I did because it gave the whole evening a nice close.
I moved the bean bag back a little, and sat on this in front of Tracey.
We both felt that the physical and sexual aspect of our evening was over, and as we
just chatted my arousal dissipated.
Just like the end of our previous session, it felt natural for me to still be naked.
Finally it was time for Tracey to go home. I quickly got dressed so that I could walk her to her car.
This is how it is meant to work and feel
These
stories are intended to be educational as well as being an erotic read.
My hope is that the stories will inspire some readers to make similar
adventures a part of their life. That is why I write so much about my
feelings and are fully honest about the difficult parts as well as the
joys.
The previous session had the thrill of the new. But as the earlier story made clear, we never really settled.
This
adventure felt very different because this time Tracey was more relaxed and
confident about how it all worked, and I was now certain that Tracey
was comfortable and enjoying her Princess Power.
This was a
great illustration of just how much fun you can have with a friend when
you use Devotional Sex to ensure that what happens is up to the
Princess.
My advice to any woman who gets a chance to play with a Knight is, if you feel relaxed with him, to play as you feel.
If you enjoy watching or doing some things, do them! Particularly if you see a positive reaction.
Playing this way you may both discover some new things. It's fun.
The Tantric component of Devotional Sex was also very apparent.
What
we did was not a quick bit of foreplay to be got over as soon as
possible so that we could move on to the real stuff.
Instead we were
both in-the-moment
of what we were doing. This was about enjoying the sensual and sexual
feelings and energies with mutual connection.
What might happen next?
As long as I remain willing to be Tracey's Devotional Friend, what we do in the future is totally up to her.
Of course I would very much like to do something similar again one day.
And I would love it if Tracey ever decided to go a bit further in any of the many ways that this could be done.
It
was a fun tease for her to be wearing no trousers during the foot
massage, and I would love it if Tracey ever teased me further by
letting me admire and desire her.
Sexually I think the furthest that we could ever go is for her to allow me to give her oral sex and afterwards to enjoy a Devotional Cuddle.
I don't even think about having intercourse with Tracey - as I think of
her as a Devotional Friend my sexual drive is to give her oral. It
would be great one day to hear her say "Ritual".
And
as my limits include having to obey a Princes in front of other
consenting adults (as long as there is no humiliation) I can even go
off into fantasies of one day being Tracey's Knight in front of one of
her girlfriends.
But what is best is that after the adventure of
this story, the sexual aspects of our Devotional Friendship are now a
natural part of our dynamic. Not that this means anything will happen
in the future. Just that if it does it will not feel like something out
of the ordinary. It is a new way we can have fun together.
I
think that from now on Tracey will feel more relaxed about enjoying
just sensual treats like massages. If I get slightly turned-on giving
her a massage in the future I'm now confident that Tracey will feel relaxed
about this and either just ignore my arousal or, if I'm lucky, have
some fun teasing me.
And if she ever wants to explicitly play
with my sexual energy, this adventure has shown that this can be done
very naturally and can be lots of fun.
As
I said to Tracey over dinner the next time we met "I think we now have
a very real Devotional Friendship. I have no idea what, if anything,
may happen when we go back to my place. Even if you ask for nothing, I
enjoy feeling the potential of your Princess Power in that if you did
ask me to do something then it will happen. So to me just sitting here
having dinner with you feels like very real Devotional Sex."
What did happen next (so far)
I've seen Tracey many times since the adventure of this story. So far only one visit has resulted in a Devotional activity.
That evening Tracey was very tired, and asked for a foot massage.
I asked if she wanted me to take any clothes off, and she said not yet, but she might change her mind later.
The
memories of the events of the above story were fresh in my mind, so
even though I was fully dressed I got aroused at the start of the foot
massage. But Tracey just needed to relax, and so soon things turned
into just a foot massage, and she never asked me to undress.
I
think I gave her one of my best foot massages ever, so she certainly
benefited that evening from her use of Princess Power. And though I
would of course liked to have had more happen, I enjoyed giving her the
foot massage.
I'm very much looking forward to the next time Tracey uses her Princess Power.
Who knows what might happen? (Apart from Tracey!)
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