Friday, 27 February Our 31st date.1 day since my last Climax.
Michael writes:
I
knew that Ada had the afternoon off (for a Doctor's appointment). After
her appointment she surprised me by dropping in (I work at home).
When she arrived the first thing she wanted to do was to look at her work email.
It was only after she had done this that she said "Reveal".
Once
she had watched me undress she wanted to have a look at my recent
writing for this Blog. So I sat naked beside her as she read. Even
though I had had a huge Climax yesterday I still started to feel desire
for my Princess.
Ada noticed, and was keen to enjoy her Knight.
She suggested going into the bedroom, and before we left the living room she had me take off all her clothes except her panties.
My
`plumbing´ was fully back to normal after yesterday's ejaculation, and I was almost
fully erect as I got into bed. I enjoyed seeing Ada smile as she
noticed this.
Even though Ada knew I was very aroused, our time in bed started with just a quiet cuddle.
Ada was lying on her side with her back to me, and I was cuddling her from behind and holding her lovely breasts.
It felt incredibly good when after a long `just a cuddle´ Ada reached behind her and took hold of my erection.
Michael adds:
When I am aroused and all we are doing is a cuddle I sometimes feel a bit ignored. When Ada turns just a cuddle into a Devotional Cuddle I not only get pleasure from her holding my erection, but I feel that my arousal is acknowledged.
So
just a cuddle sometimes has me feeling a bit rejected and ignored,
whilst a Devotional Cuddle makes me feel so accepted and close to my
Princess that even if things go no further I feel that my erotic energy has been celebrated.
Devotional
Sex is often win-win because a Devotional Cuddle is not going too far
for a Princess not in the mood for further sexual activity, whilst it
goes far enough for her Knight to feel that his arousal is accepted and
enjoyed.
Today, fortunately, Ada felt like doing a bit more with her aroused Knight than just a Devotional Cuddle.
She said "Ritual", and as I found her legs together when I moved down, we enjoyed a Ritual Cuddle.
She still had her panties on, so I lay with my head on her panties. I
think Ada is starting to enjoy these cuddles, and their effect on me,
more and more.
Ada then had me come up, but not all the way. For a while we continued to cuddle with me in the Be Small position.
Ada
then said "Unwrap".
We are both still experimenting with this new
ritual where Ada uses this command to have me take off her panties. It
feels nice that we might get into the habit that Ada never takes off
her own panties when we are together and always has me do this
for her.
I gave the top of her panties a little kiss, and then took her panties off.
Ada then rolled over and
lay on her tummy.
I lay down and placed my head on the cheeks of her bottom. I also become a bit more active and kissed and
caressed her cheeks and lower legs.
This time we both knew that a Bud Kiss would only happen if she asked for it.
I was certainly very aware that this was something that she could ask for.
For
Ada today's cuddle was probably more relaxing because this time she knew that
I would not accidentally start to kiss her Bud. As she did not want a
Bud Kiss, and thus did not ask for it, it did not happen. But even
though she did not want this today, I hope she was aware that if she
had said "Ritual" I would have had to give her this very submissive
kiss.
As she lay on her
tummy I discovered a very intimate match for the Ritual
Cuddle. This was with me lying with my eyes on the cheeks of her
bottom, and my nose in the gap between the top of her legs.
This new cuddle position certainly felt like a very intimate and submissive way for a Knight to cuddle his Princess.
Michael comments:
So today I discovered a new cuddle to add to the Ritual command!
With
the Ritual command, when a Princess says Ritual and lies on her back
with her legs together she gets a Ritual Cuddle. If she parts her legs it becomes a Pleasure Kiss.
The obvious match to this is
that when a Princess says Ritual and lies on her tummy with her legs
together she should get the intimate cuddle I discovered today. And if
she then parts her legs the cuddle becomes a Bud Kiss.
I told Ada how intimate the cuddle with her
on her lying on her tummy had felt. I hope she says "Ritual" one day
and lies on her tummy with her legs together so I can give her this type of cuddle again.
Whilst
I was kissing and intimately cuddling my Princess as she lay on her
tummy I was very much wanting to give her a Pleasure Kiss. Today I was
lucky because my Princess rolled onto her back and parted her legs.
It
is a special moment for us both the first time my tongue very gently
touches the lips of her Pleasure. I always enjoy teasing my Princess by
not starting too quickly.
Even
though I had only one day's erotic energy, all the activities on our
previous dates has effectively trained me to enjoy giving a Pleasure
Kiss even more. Today was not just me pleasuring my Princess, but
my gaining pleasure from being allowed to give her the Pleasure Kiss.
This
kiss did not last as long as yesterday's. It ended when my Princess had a big
orgasm. As it was daylight I was, for the third time, able to closely
watch her contractions.
I
then moved up to cuddle my Princess, and she rewarded me by reaching
down to hold my erection. Giving Ada the Pleasure Kiss had really
raised my erotic energy, and I was thrusting into her hand as we
cuddled.
Even though she was exhausted after her orgasm I think she still enjoyed my energy.
Michael comments:
Of
course my body was now clearly saying that it wanted further sexual
activity, and with Ada holding my very hard erection in her hand she
could not be more aware of my energy.
If
Ada had felt that this was in any way a demand or expectation for doing
more then in her post-orgasmic collapse she would not have appreciated
my energy.
But Devotional Sex
has become so natural for us that Ada felt no pressure or expectation.
She knew that unless she decided that more would happen, this cuddle
would be the end or our activities. This was not her being dominant and
actively controlling me. It was her feeling fully relaxed and
comfortable that as she just wanted to rest that her resting is all
that would happen.
So for her my energy was enjoyable because it
showed just how much I had enjoyed bringing her to orgasm with my
mouth. And her holding my erection was also a celebration of her Princess Power - all my energy would go no further because that was what she wanted.
And,
finally, she knew that her holding my erection was pleasurable for me,
and made me feel appreciated by her as I started the process of calming
down.
After a while she let go of my erection, and we then just had a long cuddle together.
As usual Ada liked me holding her breast as we cuddled.
Ada
could not stay long (as she was meeting a friend for dinner), so
she had me Wrap her (put her panties back on), and then we both got
dressed.
It was a nice 90 minutes together, and I'm looking forward to seeing her again tomorrow.
Devotional
Sex makes it very easy to enjoy sessions with very imbalanced activities. Today was such a session as today I gave my Princess
oral sex till she orgasmed but all she did to me was gently play with
and hold my erection. But even though it was unbalanced, I think we both enjoyed today as much as the other. Every Devotee couple is different, and it is interesting how Ada and I have settled into a dynamic that is working well for us.
Most of my previous Devotional Relationships have been a bit more balanced than how things are with Ada.
The
biggest sign of imbalance is that Ada almost always has me naked when
we are at home alone together. That Affirmation is now our normal way
of being together when in private very much has me always feeling that my Princess is
in charge, and has me feeling hers.
The strong Devotional dynamic which Ada has maintained means that
what we do, and when we do it, is strongly under her control. So we can
enjoy time in bed without sexual activity if this is what she wants,
and if there is sexual activity it might be mainly me giving her oral (such as today).
Not
doing `everything´ every time
we have sex enables Ada to enjoy everything that we do do. And her
enjoying everything that we do means, I suspect, that we end up
engaging in lots more sexual activity than would happen in a
conventional relationship.
For example, if Ada had thought that our going to bed meant that Joy or her giving me a Desire Kiss
was expected as part of our sexual activity, and today she had not been
in the mood for one of these expected activities, then she might have
chosen to not go to bed today. Given the choice of nothing or what we
did today, I am very much prefer today's activities.
So my missing out on
some activities much of the time has led to our enjoying much more
sexual activity - and that is very good for me.
If you have read
this blog closely from the beginning you may have noticed that the one
common sexual activity which we have only done a few times is Ada giving me a
Desire Kiss. And I don't think she has ever given me a Desire Kiss
lasting over two minutes.
As Ada will read these words, I shall
be honest and admit that I really do enjoy long Desire Kisses, and so
this is an activity that I do miss.
But I must quickly say that
the reason for writing these words is not to try to get Ada to give me
a long Desire Kiss, but to point out that with the way things are working with
Ada and me at the moment, it actually adds a bit to her power over me
that her Desire Kisses are just fleeting teases.
Because
non-teasing Desire Kisses are not a part of our activities at the
moment means that every time I have an erection during Affirmation
there is no implied `give my a suck´. I really like it that Ada
can enjoy looking at my erections without any feeling that my arousal
need lead to any activity.
And just as important as
Ada not thinking my erection implies `give me oral sex´ is that I do not think about it either.
Because
my receiving oral sex is so rare it is not something that I ever expect
with Ada. If I was thinking about my receiving oral sex when I was
aroused with Ada then I would be disappointed and frustrated. But I
feel neither disappointed nor frustrated because my attention is
focused on either enjoying the moment or on thinking about the other
activities which we often do together.
Perhaps if Ada
did not maintain a strong Devotional dynamic with all the Affirmation I
would expect things to be a bit more even in bed. So not only does her
not giving me much oral sex help our Affirmation time to be
non-demanding on my Princess, the Affirmation has made it feel fairly
natural in this relationship for all of our oral sex thoughts to be
about me giving oral to my Princess.
I would certainly love it if one day Ada decided to give me a long Desire Kiss.
But
I think one conclusion of this `writing out loud´ is that it might be best if my
Princess just decides that in this relationship my receiving oral will
just be the occasional tease, or the very occasional treat.
If we both acknowledge that this is the case my Princess would be able to use this to tease me.
It
would make a very powerful tease for my Princess to sometimes talk
about how much I might like a Desire Kiss, but that she is choosing not
to do so. And her power not to give me oral can be contrasted with her
power to have me give her oral whenever and for as long as she likes.
So I think the other conclusion from this `writing out loud´ is
that it would be best for us to openly acknowledge our huge imbalance
in giving and receiving oral sex, and rather than keeping this
unspoken, it can be used as a powerful tease and a very powerful way of
making me feel that I am her Knight.
As long as Ada continues to keep me feeling that the Devotional dynamic is strong
(eg with lots of Affirmation and other things), I think I will remain
very happy to be her devoted Knight even if my receiving oral sex remains a rare activity.
For most couples their starting to practice Devotional Sex
may shift the balance of who receives the most
oral sex from the man receiving the most to the woman receiving the
most. But in the bulk of Devotional Relationships it will still be
common for the Knight to receive oral sex.
My
not receiving much oral sex in my current relationship with Ada is
acceptable to me because of our strong Devotional dynamic and the large
amount of other sexual activity that we enjoy together.
But as my earlier Devotional Relationships did not have such a strong Devotional dynamic I would not have been happy if in those relationships my receiving oral sex had been rare.
So
what works now for Ada and I would not have worked for me with some
other partners, and it might not work in your relationship.
