Devotional Sex with other people
Devotional Sex with other people | Chapter 12: Other People
Knight swapping and lending
Swapping
partners used to be called `wife swapping´. In Devotional Sex a
Princess can swap her Knight with another Princess, and this is called
Knight swapping.
With Knight swapping each Princess gets to have fun with and be pampered by a borrowed Knight. And both Knight's get to enjoy the adventure of serving a temporary Princess.
Knight lending is when a Princess lends her Knight to
another woman.
A Princess might lend her Knight to a female friend so that she can host a girls night at her home with a naked man being their waiter and entertainment. Or she might lend her Knight to a single female friend so that her friend can enjoy an evening of being pampered.
A Princess with a borrowed Knight can enjoy teasing and arousing him, and she could even have him be naked for all of the time they are together. Such erotic fun with a borrowed Knight might be as far as things go.
As this is Devotional Sex, a borrowed Knight should never be allowed to Climax while with a temporary Princess. And if sharing sexual pleasures is allowed, I recommend that this never goes as far as Joy.
Knight swapping or lending is different from the other types of activities with others because with Knight swapping or lending the Princess who borrows a Knight takes him away to play with alone. In all the other types of interaction with others the Knight obeys his own Princess. With Knight swapping and lending he must obey a temporary Princess.
As with all Devotional Sex activities, Knight swapping or lending can only take place if everyone involved consents.
What happens can range from mild to wild depending on how the limits have been set (everyone involved is able to set limits) and what the borrowing Princess decides to do within those limits.
I recommend that every Princess fully explore her Knight's limits in regard to Knight swapping and lending.
Even if a Princess has no intention of every allowing Knight swapping or lending to happen, it may be fun for both to find out what her Knight would like or be willing to do. And if she does not tell her Knight that his being swapped or lent will always remain just a fantasy, the couple can both enjoy the fun of the Knight thinking that one day it might happen.
Once a Princess has discovered her Knight's limits, she is free to swap or lend her Knight whenever she wishes as long as this is all done within his limits. (More)
The Princess lending her Knight decides how long he will be away and what conditions will apply.
If the lending is part of a swap, then both Knights will be lent for the same amount of time. A Knight might be lent for just a few hours, an evening, or a whole weekend.
The lending Princess also sets what rules and restrictions will apply while he is away, and what, if any, activities are not allowed.
She may also make suggestions to the Princess who will be borrowing her Knight. This discussion may be in front of her Knight, or it can be done without him knowing.
When swapping Knight's the rules may be the same for both Knights. But this does not need to be the case, and an interesting dynamic is created when the rules for each Knight are different. (More)
A
Princess and a borrowed Knight have a different dynamic from a Devotee
couple. As they are not in a relationship, the borrowed Knight is very
much just the sensual and sexual plaything of the Princess.
Borrowing a Knight is the ultimate indulgence for a Princess.
Borrowing a Knight is the ultimate indulgence for a Princess.
A Princess with a borrowed Knight is free to do whatever she wishes as long as what is done remains within everyone's limits. Of course this includes not going as far as the limits allow.
A part of Devotional Sex being fully consensual is that a Knight can set limits for what his Princess is allowed to do with other men. If such limits have been set, a Princess with a borrowed Knight is duty bound to stay within these limits.
Devotional Sex is only successful if everyone involved enjoys it enough to want to continue its practice. Thus a Princess with a borrowed Knight has a responsibility to ensure that her borrowed Knight enjoys the experience enough to want to do this again.
Knight swapping or lending can be used to give someone new to Devotional Sex a fun practical lesson. An experienced Princess can educate a new Knight, or an experienced Knight can guide a new Princess. (More)
The Knight who is lent or swapped has the adventure and pleasure of serving another Princess.
Doing things with a new person makes everything feel novel and much more exciting.
For example, it is fun for a Knight to be told to Reveal by his Princess, but hearing "Reveal" from a temporary Princess is much more exciting, and perhaps even slightly scary.
A
Knight with a temporary Princess will be on his best behavior because
he wants to impress his temporary Princess and make his own Princess
proud of him.
The communication and feedback associated with Knight swapping and lending not only ensures that things go no further than have been agreed, but it ensures that the Knight's (normal) Princess knows how well he behaves while he is away. (More)
Because having a borrowed Knight is such a special event, most Princesses will probably want to make the most of the opportunity.
This can be a time for her to enjoy Sensual Pleasures such as foot and body massages.
She can also enjoy lots of Erotic Fun to both tease her borrowed Knight and to make their time together feel unique. For example, the Princess may decide that her borrowed Knight must be naked all of the time he is with her. (More)
Which full sexual activities are allowed to take place between a Princess and her borrowed Knight depends on the limits set by all involved. Of course a Princess with a borrowed Knight may decide not to go as far as the limits allow.
My recommendation is that a Knight is never allowed to Climax while being swapped or lent. I also recommend that all sexual activities be allowed except for Joy.
Applying these restrictions leaves some sexual acts as things solely done within the relationship, which ensures that sex within the relationship has some unique pleasures.
The restrictions are also very easy to apply for people who practice Devotional Sex because within a Devotional relationship there will be many evenings with sexual activity which do not go as far as Joy, and even more evenings where the Knight is not allowed to Climax.
Of course couples can set stronger or weaker rules if they wish. (More)
How a Princess and her borrowed Knight relate together in regards to intimacy and connection depends on what works best for them while they are together.
At one extreme the dynamic can be fairly `business like´ and have no kissing or cuddling. The other extreme is when a Princess wants to enjoy lots of intimacy with her borrowed Knight and there is lots of kissing and cuddling while they are together.
The amount of connection will also depend on the couple. If the Tantric component of Devotional Sex is fully explored it is possible to create a very strong connection and there may even be a spiritual component to the session. (More)
A Princess who would be jealous if her Knight was with someone else is unlikely to agree to lend her Knight. And a Knight who thinks that he might be so jealous if his partner was with another Knight that it might damage their relationship should not allow Knight swapping to become part of his Devotional relationship.
But as part of the fun and excitement of Knight swapping, both a Knight's Princess and the Princess who borrows him can have fun with the fact that the Knight might be a bit jealous that his Princess is with another man. If this is done properly, it can be very powerful and exciting for the Knight. (More)
A Princess with a borrowed Knight has the opportunity to explore any activities which her normal partner is unwilling to do (or would not enjoy doing) as long as her borrowed Knight is willing or wanting to do that activity.
To take one of the enhancements presented in Chapter 13 as an example, if a Princess would like to give a Knight a good spanking, and her normal partner is not interested in this kink, she might find that her borrowed Knight would enjoy being spanked.
Having a borrowed Knight also enables a Princess to enjoy a dynamic that she feels would be inappropriate to do with her partner, but would be fun to do with a borrowed Knight. (More)
A key factor in ensuring that Knight swapping works in practice is to ensure that there are two communications sessions afterwards. As everyone knows that this communication will take place after the event, this keeps what happens during the event within the agreed limits, and it ensures that everyone behaves appropriately.
One communication session is for the two Princesses to compare notes.
The other communication session is that after a Knight returns from being lent or swapped he must tell his Princess in detail what happened and how he felt.
It is recommended that to enhance Princess Power that a Princess who borrows a Knight never tells her Knight anything at all about what she did with her borrowed Knight. (More)
The challenge for a couple wishing to try some Knight swapping is that they need to find a compatible couple who also practice Devotional Sex and who are also interested in Knight swapping. Fortunately the Internet is ideal for bringing people together.
If both couples have read this site and are used to practicing Devotional Sex, making the arrangements for a Knight swap might be a fairly quick and easy process. (More)
Knight lending requires a Princess to be willing to lend her Knight without getting the fun of having a borrowed Knight. The three reasons why she might lend her Knight are all to do with giving others an exciting experience, so real-life Knight lending requires the lending Princess to be very generous.
But if a Princess is willing to lend her Knight, it may be surprisingly easy to find a woman who would enjoy borrowing a Knight, and thus couples who want to try Knight lending will probably be able to try this for real. (More)
When
it all works, Knight swapping and lending not only provides fun and
pleasure, but may also result in a better relationship for each Devotee
couple involved.
Sexual activity with other people always has some dangers, and Knight swapping is definitely not for everyone.
But those who are brave enough to try Knight swapping, and who are able to avoid the potential problems, will get to enjoy the fun and adventure of Devotional Sex with another person.
As well as being fun, Knight swapping might lead to a better relationship.
A long-term relationship can become a bit stale partly because a man no longer feels he needs to prove himself to his partner.
But when a couple do some Knight swapping, the man will know that his partner is enjoying another man. This may re-energize his competitive drive and make him want to prove to his partner that he is still deserving of her. Hence he is likely to strive to be a better Knight with his Princess so that he compares favorably with the borrowed Knight.
Hence Knight swapping might even bring a couple closer together and make their relationship even better. (More)
A Knight-swapping club is when three or more Princesses organize themselves so they can swap their Knights.
This not only makes it possible to enjoy the pleasures of borrowing a Knight on a regular basis, but provides some variety in the borrowed Knights. (More)
(Though the page on Knight-swapping is not yet written, you can discuss this topic at the Devotional Sex forum.)
