A Devotional Sex party
A Devotional Sex party | Devotional Sex with other people | Chapter 12: Other People
The default rules for a Devotional Sex party
This
section presents the default rules and guidelines for a Devotional Sex
party. These rules apply unless the host tells you before the party
that some changes have been made.
The default rules of a Devotional Sex party have been set so that, on one hand, people can attend without having to do anything, and on the other hand, couples who wish can perform most `living room Devotional activities´.
So if someone just says "Let's have a Devotional Sex party!", these are the rules and guidelines.
The default rules of a Devotional Sex party have been set so that, on one hand, people can attend without having to do anything, and on the other hand, couples who wish can perform most `living room Devotional activities´.
So if someone just says "Let's have a Devotional Sex party!", these are the rules and guidelines.
The page after this provides more explanation about these rules, as well as suggesting lots of things that could happen that are within these rules.
Hence, to give your informed consent for a Devotional Sex party, you should read both this and the next page.
"more" after any item below takes you to the part of What can happen during a Devotional Sex party which includes that item.
If the host of a party lets everyone know beforehand, the rules of a party can be changed.
"change" after any item below takes you to the page which says how that item can be changed.
Guidelines for everyone
- Attending the party is agreement that you
will follow these rules, and that you give your consent to observing others do any activities allowed at the party. (more)
- Each
party has a host who is usually a Princess but could be a Knight. The
host has overall responsibility to ensure that everything that happens
is consensual, and for managing the overall feel of the party. (more)
- No Devotional activities are allowed until the host declares the party open. (more)
- All must obey
any instructions by the host to stop an activity (even if that activity
is allowed by these rules). (more)
- The host can declare the party over after which all Devotional activity must end. (more)
- Every woman who attends is a Princess. (change)
- A
woman who does not practice Devotional Sex can attend a party
as long as she is mentored by an experienced Princess. Under
this Princess's mentorship she is given the powers and responsibilities
of a Princess. As a Princess she can take part in the activities, or choose to
just observe. (more)
- Every man who attends must be a Knight. (change)
- Every
Knight must have a Princess for that party. A Princess may take charge
of more than one Knight so that single men can attend. (more)
- A
Knight who has been instructed to obey the commands of all the women at
the party will be marked by a large red dot on their forehead (eg red
lipstick could be used). (more)
- Everyone must show respect to everyone else at the party
(especially those who see things a bit differently from your viewpoint). (more)
- Humiliation is not
part of Devotional Sex, and nothing that is said or done at the party
should make anyone feel humiliated. Hence, keep the tone positive, and
avoid making any negative comments about other couples. (more)
- Devotional activities are only allowed in the specified room(s). (more)
- No getting drunk, nor getting high on any other drug. (Essential to keep all activity safe, sane, and consensual). (more)
- Only
the host may take photos or videos, and the host can only do this with
the permission of everyone in the picture. (more)
- Respect other people's privacy after the party. It is never appropriate to mention outside a party who did any activity. And it is never appropriate to `out´ someone as a Devotee. (more)
Guidelines for the Princesses
- Before
the party a Princess must have a clear understanding of what activities
her Knight is willing to do at that party, and how he feels about each
of these activities. (more)
- To
maintain a healthy relationship, a Princess also needs to clear with
her partner before the party, what, if anything, he is happy for her to
do with another Knight. (more)
- A
Princess must be honest in any answers she gives to Devotional Sex
related questions (from other Princess's and Knights). But she does not
have to answer a question, and
can just say "Pass" when she does not want to answer. (more)
- Apart
from any compulsory activities, a Princess does not have to take part
in any activity, or instruct her Knight to do any activity. (more)
- Though
being at a Devotional Sex party means that many explicit activities are
allowed, the party will work best if each Princess is always aware of
the social situation. Rather than just commanding her Knight to do
something extreme, it would usually work best if she talks about the
possibility first with the other Princess's. (more)
- During
a party it is the
responsibility of each Princess to ensure that her Knight is not
pressured into doing anything beyond his limits for that party, and
to stop any activity if it becomes clear that her Knight is feeling
distressed. (more)
- A Princess should always feel confident to do things in the way that would work best for her and her Knight. (more)
- A
Princess can keep her Knight for herself,
or she can have her Knight serve other Princesses. (more)
- A Princess who wishes to
command, or to do something to, another Princess's Knight must always
first ask that Knight's Princess for permission.
Her request to the Princess can be made by asking the Knight to go to his Princess and have him make the request on her behalf.
The Knight's Princess may gracefully decline permission, instruct her Knight to obey that one command, or instruct her Knight to obey all future commands from that Princess. (more)
- Touching
or teasing another Princess's Knight is only allowed if a Princess has permission from
that Knight's Princess, or she has been given power over him. (more)
- A
Princess cannot command her Knight to do something to another Princess
without that Princess saying she would enjoy that command. (more)
- A
Princess offered power over another Princess's Knight should always
graciously accept, but is under no obligation to use that power. (more)
- As
within all Devotional Sex, a Princess should receive any requests or
suggestions gracefully because as Princess it is fully up to her to
decide whether or not to follow through. (more)
- When
a Princess is
allowed to command another Princess's Knight, she must remember that he
is only expected to do things which are within his limits for that
party. There may be activities which are allowed at that party but are
not within that Knight's limits. If in doubt, his new Princess can ask
the Knight whether or not a command is allowed. (more)
- A
Knight can only do things with another Princess up to what his Princess
allows. So even if the Knight is desperately wanting to go one stage
further, his Princess may decide that this is not allowed. (more)
Rules for the Knights
- A Knight will obey all commands from his
Princess, and other Princess's if instructed, as long as they are
within the limits which he has set for the party. If he becomes
distressed, his Princess should end the distressing activity. But if she
does not, he can use the Red safe word, and become an observer for the
rest of the party. (more)
- A Knight who is asked to do something beyond his
limits, or something that his Princess does not allow him to do, should
tell the Princess why he is not able to obey that command. (more)
- Unless
asked a direct question by a Princess, a Knight must not
comment on the Devotional activities of the other people at the party. (more)
- A
Knight may make a suggestion to do a Devotional activity to any
Princess who has power over him. He must not make a suggestion to any
Princess who does not have power over him. (more)
- Unless his Princess tells him not to answer, a Knight must honestly and openly answer any sex related question asked by any Princess or Knight. (more)
Compulsory activities
The default Devotional Sex party rules do not include any compulsory activities. (change)
The following activities are not allowed
- A Knight ejaculating. (more)A Knight must never ejaculate at a party (apart from accidents).
A Princess must never try to make a Knight ejaculate, and, if necessary, a Princess should make it easy for a Knight to regain control of himself if he gets too close. - Intercourse. (more)
- A Devotional Sex show (ie a show including `bedroom activities´). (change)
- Strong
BDSM activities. (change)
- Male-to-male activities. (change)
Being the first to `break the ice´ may be difficult and challenging. But someone has to be first, and once someone has done something, it is then much easier for others to follow.
Each of the following activities is encouraged as each opens up a new level of looking and feeling like a Princess and her Knight.
- Sitting in a way which shows the dynamic is active, for example, a Knight sitting at the feet of his Princess. (more)
- Doing a mild activity which shows the dynamic is active, for example a Knight giving his Princess a foot massage. (more)
- Playing the Truth game for fun and education. (more)
- Princess's
talking amongst themselves about what they might make happen (even if
they have no intention of actually doing it) or about how they have
enjoyed their power over their Knight on other occasions. (more)
- Affirmation (more)
- A Knight becoming aroused is always a good thing. (more)
Learning more
The next section provides some explanation about these default rules, as well as suggesting lots of things that could happen that are within these rules.
More timid Devotees should read this section so they are better informed about what they might see at a party. And more adventurous Devotees will get some ideas for what they might do at a party.
