Devotional Sex activities with other people
Devotional Sex activities with other people | Chapter 12: Other People
A Devotional Sex party
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Devotional Sex party is a social event where Devotional Sex activities
take place according to the rules set by the host of the party.
The aim of a Devotional Sex party is not to take others into your bedroom, but to be able to enjoy `living room´ Devotional activities in a social setting.
The aim of a Devotional Sex party is not to take others into your bedroom, but to be able to enjoy `living room´ Devotional activities in a social setting.
If two (or more) Devotee couples agree to have a Devotional Sex party this means they are giving the other couple the freedom to perform some `living room Devotional activities´ in their presence.
One possibility is that neither couple will choose to do anything. Another is that what happens will remain mild. And couples who wish can enjoy a Devotional dynamic including nudity, arousal, and teasing or sensual sexual activity.
"A Devotional Sex party sounds gentle, considerate, considered, loving, empathic and erotic."
Kittycat, a 45 year old female from Melbourne
Even just doing something mild in a social setting can feel very special and exciting when all present know that what you are doing is part of being a Princess and her Knight.
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Knight giving his Princess a foot massage can be done without others
knowing about your dynamic (giving the others present the idea that you
are just a very loving couple). But when everyone knows about your Devotional Dynamic, you
are seen by others, and you very much feel, like a Princess being served by her Knight.
With everyone knowing about the dynamic at a Devotional Sex party, a Knight can give his Princess's foot a little kiss to show everyone in the room how special he feels to be seen as her Knight.
And for the ultimate look and feel of the Knight being devoted to his Princess, at a Devotional Sex party a Princess can have her Knight be naked at her feet.
With everyone knowing about the dynamic at a Devotional Sex party, a Knight can give his Princess's foot a little kiss to show everyone in the room how special he feels to be seen as her Knight.
And for the ultimate look and feel of the Knight being devoted to his Princess, at a Devotional Sex party a Princess can have her Knight be naked at her feet.
What can happen at a Devotional Sex party is very similar to what may often happen when a Devotee couple spend a whole evening enjoying Devotional Sex in private. When they do this:
Most of their time will be taken up doing other things such as dinner, talking, or watching a movie. A Princess may also enjoy receiving sensual pleasures such as a foot massage.
But this may all be done with a background Devotional activity, such as Affirmation, taking place.
And during an evening of Devotional Sex the Princess will create times of high arousal to keep the dynamic active. Sometimes this might be for just a few minutes, and sometimes she might keep her Knight aroused for half an hour. These times of arousal will alternate with times of just background arousal.
In the many hours they spend together in the living room there may be some explicit sexual activity, but this will tend to be done just to tease or to enjoy some sexual sensuality.
If not just because a bed is more comfortable, the couple will usually leave the night's major sexual pleasures for the bedroom.
But this may all be done with a background Devotional activity, such as Affirmation, taking place.
And during an evening of Devotional Sex the Princess will create times of high arousal to keep the dynamic active. Sometimes this might be for just a few minutes, and sometimes she might keep her Knight aroused for half an hour. These times of arousal will alternate with times of just background arousal.
In the many hours they spend together in the living room there may be some explicit sexual activity, but this will tend to be done just to tease or to enjoy some sexual sensuality.
If not just because a bed is more comfortable, the couple will usually leave the night's major sexual pleasures for the bedroom.
A Devotional Sex party allows a couple to enjoy doing or watching these living room activities in a social setting.
Just like an evening in private, most of what happens at a Devotional Sex party will be normal socializing and normal activities, albeit with a very different background undercurrent, and perhaps interspersed with some moments of sexual and sensual entertainment.
And just like an evening at home in private, what you is totally up to the Princess.
For a Knight attending a Devotional Sex party will always feel special because he knows that, within his limits, he must do whatever his Princess says.
Everyone else at the party also knows that each Knight is at the whim of their Princess, and this can be a fun and powerful dynamic for everyone.
Going
to a party means that you agree to follow all the rules and guidelines
for that party, which includes consenting to watch others.
One of the fun things about a Devotional Sex party is that it gives you permission to watch. Don't stare rudely, but neither feel you need to avert your gaze.
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Devotional Sex party is ideal for gatherings of more than four people.
This is because in a large group where everyone is engaging in
activities in the same room, it is difficult to negotiate consent each
step of the way.
Suggesting a Devotional Sex party is also a very quick way for a Devotee couple to negotiate an activity with a friend or another couple.
Suggesting a Devotional Sex party is also a very quick way for a Devotee couple to negotiate an activity with a friend or another couple.
Of course a group of Devotees can get together without having a Devotional Sex party. And in this case it would be inappropriate for anyone to do things that are normally only done in private.
When there are only three or four people at a Devotional Sex party it is very easy to negotiate consent, and so, if everyone is happy, changing the rules of a party can happen without much fuss. So for a small party, use these guidelines more to suggest what can and cannot happen than as a formal set of rules.
The formality of this section is appropriate for larger Devotional Sex parties where it is best to set some rules and guidelines for what can and cannot happen before the party. Each couple then know what they might see at the party, and are free to do what they wish within the rules without having to negotiate consent with the large group.
Those relaxed about their own enjoyment of Devotional Sex, and relaxed about the idea of seeing other people enjoying Devotional Sex, may decide that whenever they get together with other Devotee's that they are happy for Devotional Sex party rules to apply.
It may feel extremely liberating to be able to act and feel like a Princess or a Knight in a social setting.
Though you might be nervous at the start of your first party, by the end it is likely to feel very natural to enjoy, and to watch others enjoying, real-life Devotional Sex in this setting.
Though you might be nervous at the start of your first party, by the end it is likely to feel very natural to enjoy, and to watch others enjoying, real-life Devotional Sex in this setting.
A Princess may find it very special to have her Knight show his devotion to her in this social setting. And her Knight will get a thrill out of being allowed to show his devotion this way. And those who don't do much may enjoy watching others.
A Devotional Sex party is likely to be fun and satisfying to all who attend.
This section presents the default rules and guidelines for a Devotional Sex party. These rules apply unless the host tells you before the party that some changes have been made.
The default rules of a Devotional Sex party have been set so that, on one hand, people can attend without having to do anything, and on the other hand, couples who wish can perform most `living room Devotional activities´.
So if someone just says "Let's have a Devotional Sex party!", these are the rules and guidelines. (More)
Under the default party rules, couples are free to just watch or to only do mild activities.
The default party rules allow nudity and arousal, but restricts sexual activity to only teasing or gentle touching. Often couples will only interact with their own partner, and will enjoy being able to do this in front of others.
If anyone wants to enjoy an activity with someone other than their partner, consent is obtained as you go. And as the idea of a party is to do things in a social setting, all activities take place in the one room.
The default party rules also include a `truth game´ which may lead to some educational and fun conversation.
The default party rules allow nudity and arousal, but restricts sexual activity to only teasing or gentle touching. Often couples will only interact with their own partner, and will enjoy being able to do this in front of others.
If anyone wants to enjoy an activity with someone other than their partner, consent is obtained as you go. And as the idea of a party is to do things in a social setting, all activities take place in the one room.
The default party rules also include a `truth game´ which may lead to some educational and fun conversation.
This section provides some explanation about the default rules, as well as suggesting lots of things that can happen that are within these rules.
More timid Devotees should read this section so they are better informed about what they might see at a party. And more adventurous Devotees will get some ideas for what they might want to do at a party. (More)
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host can change the default rules if everyone is told of these changes
before the party. The new rules might include more restrictions, allow
extra activities to happen, or make some activities compulsory.
The host's freedom to make any changes to the rules is balanced by your freedom to decide whether or not to attend.
Adding new restrictions
A host can decide to add new restrictions so that the party is milder than the default.
As the whole point of a party is to allow some activities to be enjoyed in a social setting that otherwise could only be done in private, I recommend that some core activities always be allowed at a party. (More)
Adding some compulsory activities is a great way to ensure that the party is interesting and fun.
Making an activity compulsory also works well when the activity would work best if everyone took part.
Activities which could be made compulsory include a sexy dress code, Knight Affirmation (to make it a CFNM party), Display freedom, an Adore session or circle, and playing the Challenge game. (More)
The host may also allow some of the activities which are banned under the default rules to be enjoyed at a party. This can add a whole new dimension to the party.
Normally banned activities which the host may decide to allow include allowing a Devotional Sex Show, some `bedroom´ sexual activities with others, strong BDSM activities, and male-to-male activity.
The host may also change the rules to allow a man who is not a Knight to attend, or to allow a couple with a dominant male and a submissive female to attend. (More)
Changing the rules during a party
The default rules already allow a host to stop an activity during a party even if that activity is allowed within the rules.
Changing the rules during a party to allow another activity, or to make something compulsory, can be done if everyone agrees. When a party is just three people or two couples, negotiating a change might be very easy.
But if a party is over five people, care needs to be taken that no-one feels group pressure to accept changes that they would rather not accept. (More)