Chapter 12: Other People
Devotional Sex activities with other people
In
mainstream society, couples are usually either very chaste when other
people are present or they go to the other extreme and engage in full
sexual activities with others (eg at a swingers party).
Devotional Sex opens up the very exciting and liberating middle ground.
Devotional Sex opens up the very exciting and liberating middle ground.
"After a year of being
a Princess, Devotional Sex now feels very normal. Having my Knight sit
at my feet and give me a foot massage in front of a friend who knew
about our lifestyle reminded me just how special it all is, and made me
feel much more like a Princess. "
- Princess Ada
Extending your practice of Devotional Sex in this way could be as mild as enjoying some `loving couple´ activities in the presence of friends who are aware of your dynamic.
Or you might go further and in a social setting enjoy some explicit sexual teasing and warm-up sexual activity (the sort of things you might sometimes do privately in the living room before retiring to the bedroom).
And a few couples might want to go as far as enjoying some `bedroom activities´ either in front of or with others
This is what makes Devotional Sex special - you only need go as far as you wish.
It can feel extremely liberating to be able to enjoy a Devotional Dynamic in a social setting. And even though doing so differs from social norms and what most people are used to, once the initial nervousness passes it very quickly starts to feel natural.
As long as you only do what is right for you as a couple, your activities with others may become some of the most fun and exciting things you do.
Some fictional stories about Susan and Sam exploring Devotional Sex with others are presented in Chapter 15.
Fully consensual
Everything done within Devotional Sex is fully consensual, that is, it requires the consent of all people present.
Every page in this chapter assumes that:
- a Knight is only asked to do things that are within his limits,
- a Princess only asks her Knight to do things that she wants him to do,
- any activity done in front of another person has that person's consent as a spectator, and
- any activity done with another
person has that person's consent.
One reason why Devotional Sex feels special and works so well with outsiders is that every aspect of it includes a touch of Tantra.
The Tantric component creates feelings of intimacy and connection among all those present. Rather than leading to shame or humiliation, all the activities evoke feelings of celebration and fun. Rather than fostering the urge to go further to satisfy basic sexual urges, the Tantric component keeps everyone focused on appreciating what is happening, even if it is just mild.
A touch of Tantra is critical to the success of any adventures Devotees embark on with others. (More)
It can be lots of fun to
share and explore fantasies about activities with others, and this can
be done even if a Princess intends to go no further than just talk.
And if you are interested in going further, the essential first steps are some open communication and to both agree on which activities are allowed, and what is not allowed, when you are with others.
And if you are interested in going further, the essential first steps are some open communication and to both agree on which activities are allowed, and what is not allowed, when you are with others.
There is a possibility that if things go too far with others it will damage the relationship. Thus setting clear limits beforehand is very important. Not only must the Knight set his limits for what he can be made to do when with others, but he can set limits for what his Princess is allowed to do with others.
The Princess does not need to set any limits because when with others she has full control over what happens (as long as what happens stays within the limits set by her Knight and she has the consent of the other people present).
When with others a Princess may want to take things to the edge of her Knight's limits, or she can choose to have her Knight do very little or even nothing at all.
Devotional Sex can still be win-win even when one partner is not as keen to involve third parties as the other partner is.
This section concludes with some advice on how to talk with other people about Devotional Sex, and what to do if the Princess prefers the Knight to initiate and lead such conversations. (More)
As your interactions with others is a part of Devotional Sex, the following rules apply:
- A Knight always obeys his Princess
- a Knight never ejaculates when with other people
- a Princess is always sensitive to how her Knight is feeling, and pulls things back if needed, and
- everyone present stays within the rules of their chosen activity.
It is also highly recommended that a Knight who may get to enjoy some activities with others is told to keep his pubic hair clean-shaven (which is the private symbol of being a Knight).
Readers who are not interested in Devotional Sex are of course free to modify the following ideas as they wish.
This sections says why these rules are part of Devotional Sex activities with others. (More)
Whether
the things you do with others are mild or wild, they may be some of the
most fun and exciting activities you do as a couple.
Part of deciding what you would like to do, and reaching agreement with your partner and the other people to do this, is all agreeing that some things will not happen. So the activities below not only differ in what happens, but they each set different rules for what will not happen.
Agreeing to do A but not go as far as B has two advantages. Firstly, it enables people who would like to do A, but fear that doing so would lead on to B which they don't want to do, to feel comfortable enjoying A as they now know that things will go no further. Secondly, if A becomes the main event, this activity can be fully enjoyed for itself, which can make the activity feel even more fun and erotic.
While the activities are presented separately, when everyone involved is interested in more than one activity it is possible for one activity to flow into another.
Informal fun with friends involves enjoying some Devotional activities with friends where consent for each activity is given one activity at a time.
What happens might be as mild as simply being a loving couple in the presence of friends who know about your practice of Devotional Sex. Or, when both the Princess and the friends wish, and what is proposed is within the Knights limits, what happens can go much further. (More)
A Devotional Sex party is a social event where Devotional Sex activities take place according to the rules set by the host of the party. The aim of a Devotional Sex party is not to take others into your bedroom, but to be able to enjoy `living room´ Devotional activities in a social setting.
Under the default party rules, couples are free to just watch or to only do mild activities.
The default party rules allow nudity and arousal, but restricts sexual activity to only teasing or gentle touching. Often couples will only interact with their own partner, and will enjoy being able to do this in front of others.
If anyone wants to enjoy an activity with someone other than their partner, consent is obtained as you go. And as the idea of a party is to do things in a social setting, all activities take place in the one room.
The default party rules also include a `truth game´ which may lead to some educational and fun conversation.
A host can change the default rules if everyone is told of these changes before the party. The new rules might include more restrictions, allow extra activities to happen, or make some activities compulsory.
Going to a party means that you agree to follow all the rules and guidelines for that party, which includes consenting to watch others.
A Devotional Sex party is ideal for gatherings of more than four people. This is because in a large group where everyone is engaging in activities in the same room, it is difficult to negotiate consent each step of the way. Suggesting a Devotional Sex party is also a very quick way for a Devotee couple to negotiate an activity with a friend or another couple.
It may feel extremely liberating to be able to act and feel like a Princess or a Knight in a social setting. Though you might be nervous at the start of your first party, by the end it is likely to feel very natural to enjoy, and to watch others enjoying, real-life Devotional Sex in this setting. (More)
Some Devotee couples will find the idea of being watched as they have sex very exciting.
Many people are curious about the sex lives of others. If given the opportunity to watch a couple have sex, a few people would take it.
This section is about how a Devotee couple who would enjoy being watched while having sex can make this a reality. (More)
A Devotional Friend is someone you don't have a romantic relationship with but act as Princess and Knight together so that you can enjoy some sensual and erotic pleasures.
If a couple have a female Devotional Friend she is given Princess Power over the Knight. And if the friend is male he must agree to do everything the Princess requests. Of course what happens must be within the limits set by everyone present.
Activities with the Devotional Friend only take place when all three are present, though one of the couple may be just an observer.
Just as in the case of two single people being Devotional Friends, the main advantage of a couple having a Devotional Friend is that it enables some activities to take place without things going further than the Princess wishes. This means that activities practiced with a Devotional Friend may remain fairly mild.
A Devotional Friend also provides the opportunity for activities to include some same-sex interaction. And a very different dynamic is created if the couple both submit to their friend. (More)
Swapping partners used to be called `wife swapping´. In Devotional Sex a Princess can swap her Knight with another Princess, or lend her Knight to another woman. In both scenarios the Princess decides how long her Knight will be away and what conditions will apply.
A Princess and a borrowed Knight have a different dynamic from a Devotee couple. As they are not in a relationship, the borrowed Knight is very much just the sensual and sexual plaything of the Princess. Borrowing a Knight is the ultimate indulgence for a Princess.
The Knight who is lent or swapped has the adventure and pleasure of serving another Princess. He will be on his best behavior because he wants to impress his temporary Princess and make his own Princess proud of him.
When it all works, Knight swapping and lending not only provides fun and pleasure, but may also result in a better relationship for each Devotee couple involved.
As more Devotee couples recognize this, Princesses may start to swap their Knights with more than one other couple. When this starts to be done in an organized way, a Knight-swapping club has been created. (More)
A Devotional Sex Orgy is an orgy of connection. A Princess can connect with any Knight, and people can interact with more than one person at a time.
The prime way of connecting is cuddling and kissing. At a Devotional orgy which allows sexual activity there may be just a little sexual activity as part of the group intimacy, or the group intimacy may build to also become very sexual.
This is very different from a non-Devotional orgy, such as at a swingers club, where there is lots of sex but little intimacy and connection.
At a Devotional orgy every Knight must obey every Princess, and everyone who attends gives their consent for them and their partner to engage in all the activities allowed at that orgy.
A Devotional Cuddle Orgy is when everyone can cuddle and kiss. There can be lots of nudity and arousal, but sexual activity is very limited.
A Devotional Sex Orgy also encourages lots of cuddling, kissing, nudity and arousal, but also allows active sexual touching and oral sex. Joy is not allowed.
And a Devotional Joy Orgy is when couples can also have Joy at the orgy - as long as it is only with their partner.
A couple can have a Devotional orgy with just a friend, or two couples may have an orgy together. The more people who attend the more it will feel like an orgy. (More)
Tantric Devotion is a spiritual celebration of erotic energy. Usually a couple will perform a Tantric Devotion ceremony alone rather than in the presence of others.
However, including one or more other people in the ceremony who understand and share its meaning can make it even more powerful. (More)
To leave something special for within the relationship, I recommend that activities with others does not include having intercourse with anyone other than your partner.
This eliminates the highest risk factor for passing on sexually transmitted diseases (as well as avoiding the risk of pregnancy). But if intercourse does occur, remember to practice safe sex.
The risk of catching something is also reduced because with Devotional Sex with other people a Knight never ejaculates.
There are still some risks if oral sex takes place, and there can even be a risk from touching genital areas. Devotees need to decide for themselves whether or not oral sex and touching are safe, and if worried they should either avoid these activities or take precautions.
I welcome any comments or suggestions on how to improve this section. If you’ve thought of an additional activity or possibility related to this topic, let me know so that I can share it with other readers.
If you have enjoyed taking part in any of the activities described above, it would be great if you posted some comments or a story about how it went. Sharing your experience with other readers may inspire some of them to also enjoy some real-life adventures. And your input will help me improve this section of my site.
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